Instead of being angry at him, maybe you should buy him a beer. He showed you what her true colors are, and he is going to suffer her nonsense at some point himself.

Believe me, I know how you feel. My stbx was running everything female that would look his way. He had/has these girls bamboozled and though my first reaction was to track a b*tch down and pull some hair, I realize they ALL did me a favor. My life is so much more peaceful now. I know what and who I'm dealing with.

Now, so do you.

How about, instead of beating up the other man, you beat up my stbx?
He could really use a good ass-kicking, and you'll feel better.
Win-win I'd say!
;)

You're a better man than that.

do what you have to for your kids sake. i caught my wife and her married boyfriend. cant take the chance to even tell his wife because i cant risk not geting split costudy!

All jokes aside I'm with abigail. We had a similar discussion about this a couple of nights ago.

I would rather know my wife couldn't be trusted sooner than later. Build your plans for the future on true information not false promises.

That guy did you a favor. Some "guy" did the same favor for me. She's someone else's problem now.

Im with abigale and tipote:

My ex and her now finance were both married when they got involved with each other. I had thought of droppin him the next time I saw him, I know him pretty well (not as well as I thought I did) and it wouldn't be much effort especially know that I have trimmed down and started working out more.

But over the couple of months I realized, they both cheated once, they are both apt to doing it again. Plus, she has told me she regrets what she did to our family. Gee that's a good emotion to build a new relationship on. PLus she thought life was hard with 4 kids? Come May they are going to have 8 kids between them.

Yeah I think am thinking, buying the guy a beer for setting me free would be a better idea. Althought it would feel good to haul off and jaw-jack the SOB just for fun.

Trust me a wife like that is not worth the effort and nt to mention the court time adn possable jail time!

Walk away and take what dignity you have left and use to make life hell in legal ways!

Watch the late Sam Kinneson's HBO special instead.

knocking him around isnt going to help you-it will only complicate things.
plus, if you caught him with her, you missed your chance-it would have seemed reasonable to beat the guy up at that time because you obviously thought that he was attacking your wife !
but keep this in mind too- once you beat up the OM, it is over. he got what he deserves and everyone moves on )you move on with some extra complicaions- but if you ont do this, if you just leave it as if you could do this any time and you're not quite sure when and if you will, the guy will be sweatin. beating him up hurts for a few hours- paranoia lasts a while

the way i see it, for what it is worth....depending on the situation and as much as youu want to beat OM up.... if the OM is divorced and got caught up with your wife, then it is really not his fault entirely, it is mostly HERS! no, he should not have anything to do with a married woman, but it was SHE who is allowing this "activity" to go on. was in a situation where OW was divorced and stbx chose to persue her ...i blame HIM!!!! now if he is married too...make it a GOOD first punch, that's all it will take.

She sould stop him from sleeping over I think. You don't have to sink to that level, it's her fault I would say. But my advice, do nothing and let karma do it's thing.

regardless of him jumping w/a married woman, or not, violence isn't going to solve a thing. hit the gym, it's better trust me.
This person doesn't deserve ANY of your energy and you need to find ways to keep it to things in your life that need you, like family and friends, channel it to positive.
The guy as others have said, showed who she really is,a nd you should be glad to be set free. It hurts like hell to get jaded, but time moves on and you will too. without ramifications from legal and possible criminal charges.

It really does take, two to tango...

Geez, I know the feeling! My stbx invited hi g/f over to our house for sex for a whole month before I ever kicked him out (I didn't find out about the affair until after I kicked him out). I'm pissed at her too, for pursuing a relationship with my husband. But .... I'm also pissed at him because he's the one that started it and invited her over to begin with. Be angry with your wife; she's not an innocent party in all of this. And who knows what our ex's tell these two-bit trampy people that come in and have sex and relationships with already married people. They probably tell them whatever they want to or need to in order to get laid and get attention.