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Baaaaaad breakup.

Whitneyylynn
Whitneyylynn

He was my first healthy realtionship after a very abusive one. He loved me so much, and in ways I felt like it was too much and pushed me away. Until that love he had for me faded, and I had to fight to get it back. He ended up pulling away emotionally, he suffers from depression...and a bad childhood and didn't want any kids. :( so we broke up in the worst way possible. He has been very angry with me...we ended up not cleaning our apartment and it cost us in an insane amount of money and he is refusing to work with me and help me pay it...or even talk to me. Only thing that comes accross is anger, and I can't understand why...I have so much pain and can't seem to move on. Its been three months and it was a three year relationship :(



why all the anger towards me? I've tried saying sorry many times for all the hurtful things I have said to him. But have recieved nothing in return from him. Only anger. 

serenityspeaks
serenityspeaks
If your both please isnt he liable for half? Breaking up is always painful and we all deal differently. I am not that mean my ex was altho calmed down now. Its just Hard.
imiru
imiru
Its probably anger out of confusion. My ex did the same when he would get confused about emotional stuff he would get mad and lash out,even yell.. It may just be because he blames his self for how things went and feels helpless, he doesnt know how to react or what to do so he's closing his self off thinking it will block anymore pain and he's angry because he doesnt know what to say anymore. He's putting his own self into a self pity rut and may not even realize its hurting those around him. He may not be angry at you really, he may just be angry at his self and thinks he's the reason this all fell apart its his fault, his fault, his fault. You may need to give him time and have a friend or someone close to him suggest he get some therapy.
leah2022
leah2022
I think we were dating the same person. This is exactly my story. I'm so sorry and I know that doesn't help, but if it brings you any comfort, I'm right there with you. I literally told him the other day that the only emotion he is capable of is anger. I can't say anything that won't set him off.
mirandac
mirandac
I hope you get into therapy to help guide and
Steer you. It helps a lot. Join a breakup group
If there are any.

If your wounds were not healed Properly last
time then you just found another one. Just not
as Bad.

There is a book Sam keeps recommending they
Used in her abuse classes. By lundy bancroft inside
The minds of angry and controlling men. You can
Download it or purchase it on amazon. I am ordering
It today. I know why mine is like he is but any Thing
helps with closure.

I am very sorry for all your hurt and pain. HUGS
Whitneyylynn
Whitneyylynn
Yeah, I'm ready for him to calm down. But I can't help to shake the feeling of missing him and it not being reciprocated. That's the hard part. How could someone go from loving me SO much, to hating me this much that he doesn't care that my credit and my rental history is being affected.
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