Apparently it was asking too much. Seems like once their downhill slide commences, once they give themselves permission to be a total ass..... then all decencies and small courtesies are over too.

I am so sorry for how this is making you feel.

One of the hardest lessons learned for me was to not have expectations where anyone is concerned , as that just sets me up for disappointment , when they do not react they way I want them too. I know it is hard for us, when we are kind caring human beings, and they are aliens without hearts, but that is the way it is. I am sorry for your pain. Take your power back by not allowing him the opportunity to hurt you again.
They can only hurt us , if we allow it. I know that it is too soon to expect that but I can promise you that when you are able to understand that they have changed, or at least our eyes are opened to who they are now, it will get easier. Big healing hugs, Kimmee

I agree with Kimmeee. Expectations lends to disappointment. I got an unexpected text from my ex wishing me a Happy Mother's Day and ending it with the word honey. I didn't respond as I do not expect anything from him as a woman/mother of his child. I am no longer his responsibility nor him mine. No expectations. No regrets.

Complete opposite for me. Mine never bothered with gifts while we were married and now that we're separated it's all about the gifts.So, I was surprised when he actually took our daughter out to get something for me.

As for you no you were not asking too much and I'm sorry for how he's made you feel. I agree with Kimmee they can only hurt us if we allow them too. Don't give him that power... ((((((chrissy)))))))

It would have been nice no doubt, but when things are fresh, everyone second guesses everything.

I guesss I shouldn't have expected anything. I just thought he would have done it out of respect but he didn't have any respect for me to begin with so what was I thinking???!!!
I will never give him that power over me again!

What Kimmee said, and I am still bumping into that same wall, over and over, like a train with only one direction, that keeps running into a rock mountain.

Expect and accept.

Two of my favorite words.

I have tried to not "expect" anything from anyone, as it leads to disappointment. I am more trying to "accept" the fact that I only have control over my life, and not over any other human beings, thereby replacing the word "expect" with the word "accept" in my language, and life.