Stop dating then... Why do you NEED to date? Take a year off of dating and focus on yourself. Fall in love with yourself and make it a point to only go out on a friend level with old and new acquaintances. Make this a year for YOU and only you.
Make your own dreams come true. Become a strong person. Become a person to fear and love. Become the best version of you.
Fall in love with yourself to the point that you will never settle for anyone less than what you deserve.

Good advice - I just get lonely.

Thanks!

we all get lonely... haha just look at my username.
But it is better to be lonely than to be with the wrong person and wasting your time with someone who in the end will only break you.

Try volunteering. I volunteer a lot and believe me, you won't have time to get lonely! Plus, you will get to meet a lot of very interesting people and make a whole bunch of new friends.

It sucks that when you're at your most insecure and vulnerable because you've gone through a breakup, people advise you to plunge into a brand new social group like volunteering, etc. when you don't know anyone there. In my experience, it's easier to do kinda scary stuff like that when you aren't already depressed and feeling lonely/inadequate. Not that it isn't good advice--I'm trying to take that advice myself--but it is really hard to do.

I joined a meet up group before ( I like braniacs and odd balls)
And I had a blast. It was SO fun. I did get asked out by a much younger man, but the meet up was not for dating.
The date was still fun... :-)

I find that now, at my most vulnerable, is when I most want to reach out to strangers and start new connections, if only superficial-ish ones. These new people don't know me, don't know my story. I feel like I can just forget all the crap in my life and focus on something else for awhile. That's why I love to go to work now, and kinda dread the weekends. I'm no social butterfly, for sure, but I feel able to be more open with strangers now than before.

I had a very hard time at the beginning, too. It usually takes 1 year for every 4 years of a relationship to heal. You are still in the starting gate. Please learn to be gentle with yourself. Take as much time as you need to heal. I am 9 yrs post separation and divorce and God help the person that tries to invade my space. I love my "me" time. I am not ready to date, maybe I never will be. I have learned that I am a very reliable person, smart and resourceful. If the right man comes along, fine, if not, it is okay too. You really need to know what you want out of life. Hugs.

Amen, to these comments! Very good words of wisdom. I'm definitely going to do me from now on this time.
I've been a very loving, hopeless romantic my whole life. Now I'm going through my third divorce, and have decided that marriage or relationships are just not for me. After my last break up I thought I had did good moving on and working on myself, then 2 years later I let someone get into my heart and two years later its over.
Now I will love me. Put all my efforts into uplifting others because that's what I Love doing. But no more relationships. Going out for dinner , hanging out, doing things I love. That's what I'll put my efforts into.

sess pool of crazies...

there are lots of other things to do though. I hope you stay active and participate in groups or something. That is when you will most likely meet someone. when you aren't looking for it.

I tend to agree. I think people need to take time to be single and enjoy being single and having fun. No one needs to jump right back into dating or seeing others straight away. Give the head and the heart time to heal and find out who you are and in turn what you want...

The rest will all fall in place when its good and ready. Maybe its all just not working because your just not ready yet. Give yourself some time. Love yourself and be kind to yourself for as long as you possibly need.

Love will be there when you are ready and it will find you.

Being single is much more fun than the crazy rat race of the dating game.