Your prayers are heard by "God." God" gives us a free will, and will not interfere unless asked to do so. Both parties have to seek "His" help and it will be given. He does see and feel your hurt and will see you through this terrible time in your life. You will have another path to travel in life, and will be given in abundance if you stay strong in your faith and ask for it. There is no quick fix to this hardship. You have to allow yourself time to mourn and grieve, and then you will recover. Stay strong! Spiritreader1

I wish I could give you words of encouragment in this subject. But I feel the same way you do.
But what I can say is this: If you believe in God then you must also believe that there is a lesson to be learned in all of this and he may be setting you up for something bigger and better or teaching you something you will use later in life.
I always say to myself: God if this is a lesson so later I can guide my daughter down a dark path in her life then I accept it fullly and will learn the lesson you are trying to teach me. I would go through hell and back for my daughter and maybe this will teach me something I will need to know later to be able to be strong and wiser for her.
Just a thought.
Many blessings and hope for you my friend.
Big Hug

I hear your heart, your feelings of betrayal because you trusted God to keep your relationship safe and protect it. BUT, God cannot keep your husbands heart from hardening, the main reason for divorce. We still have free will, He hears your hurt, your dreams, your anger, He can handle them. He may have tried to convict your husband, to work in his heart, but if he hardened his heart to the Holy Spirit, God is a gentleman, he will not force himself on anyone. I went through the same thing with God, so much anger and hurt and betrayal, because he did not protect me. MY husband cheated for a year before I even found out. I don't know why God allows some things, but He has promised never to leave us or forsake us. I believe that with all my heart. You may feel so alone, but your not alone. "Where shall I go to hide from God?" Do you remember that scripture? Its so true. Your husband isn't hiding from him either, hes running. It will catch up. I hope that for your own peace of mind, he will someday share with you his reasons for leaving. but keep in mind, it may not be you at all. If a man decides to leave, has been fantasizing and planning for a long time, you cant stop it. HUG XXXXXXXXX

It's ok to be angry with God. He is big enough to handle your anger. To try and give you an answer as to why your marriage ended, I can not do that however, marriages do not usually end suddenly or abruptly. The die slowly, so slow sometimes it is undetectable.

There must have been some underlying issues that you were not aware of and, maybe your husband isn' t the type to reveal his true feelings and thoughts easily or openly.

It may take years for you to come to grips as to why the marriage failed and you may never truly know.

This is indeed sad. I have been there too. My ex and I were married for 10 yrs. but, we had a troubled marriage from the start. She died this past Feb. and I still remember the good times. She was my high school sweetheart. I loved her but, unfortunately, she did not love me with the same heart felt love. I was more of a security blanket and a convenience.

Some times, we have to be careful for we pray for. Because some times, when you get what you prayed for, it isn't always what the right thing is for you. It really depends on your faith and the level you believe in God, or if you are just praying because of the situation, but I think, God guides people to what may be best, yet it may not be what that person really wants. The conflict between the two will always yield the lesser of the two things. So maybe, this is what is best for you, even if you don't see why or whatnot. It is the path you should take in order to reap a happy , healthy, life.

Hi Amandarobe,
First off, let me assure you that this is not God's work.. maybe his plan for you instead. There is a bible verse which says "Lean not on our own understanding." Sometimes things happen and we've prayed upon it many times, yet God hasnt answered the prayer(s) on our time table. It certainly doesnt mean he isnt listening or that he isnt making a way for us. He is. Trust in that, please. Stay faithful and he will empower, strengthen and encourage you throughout all trying times. I promise their is light ahead, just worship and believe in his promises. Good luck xx

We all need to realized that sometimes the answer to our prayers is "no". Just because we really, really want the answer to be yes, does not mean that is the answer that is best for us.

Let go, don't blame yourself, become the best person you can become, and allow yourself to love again ... starting with yourself. I have found that time does NOT heal all wounds, love does.

I'm sure in some way God is leading you to wherever it is you are supposed to be. I TOTALLY get where you are with this. If it were my way, it would be sooooo much easier!! I have such a hard time remembering that GOD's plan is much better than I can ever imagine and I often fight it sooo hard cause it's not what I want or agree with. I hate that it means something may have to end or change or whatever the case may be. I know that you are going thru pain but in time you are going to be able to look back and say OHHHHHH!! I get it now. I'm waiting for that part myself and I am not a patient person. Hang in there my friend and it's ok to be mad at GOD, he can take it and he will love you no matter what!! Lots of prayers for you.

You should know... God has his own plan for everyone... You will be happy again just give it a time. Hugs.

Hi Amanda,
I am very sorry you going thru this.
I think you cannot let go because your husband is refusing you the true. I know how that feel. I prefer someone tells me the hurting ugly truth instead of not knowing. Unfortunately , that's not how the world works most of the time.
Your marriage was not perfect sweetie. I have a friend who had a story similar then yours but my friend is "your perfect husband" who left his wife because the truth was that he was gay but would never face his family with that reality as his mom, his upbringing, his religious belief would NEVER allow him to be himself.

He told me the true , but for his wife who doesn't know it he is the perfect husband who left the perfect relationship for no reason.

Not because you never fight means everything was perfect.

I know it's hard to accept .

Hope you find answers.

The other day as I was depressed someone told me something very powerful , we conditioned ourselves to think everything should be forever when it's not. We need to enjoy good times when they are here and let go when it's time to write a new chapter of the book of our lives.

Xoxo

Thank you so much, everyone. I am feeling much better and no where near angry with God anymore. So many of you made great points. You have helped me see that God is not to blame. God has my best interest at heart. I feel really silly now for ever being angry with God. I guess I just needed someone to blame and God was the scapegoat for me. It's sad that I would go that direction. God doesn't deserve that kind of treatment after all that he does for me.

My husband was not Christian. I also prayed everyday that God would fill his heart with love and that he would become a Christian. That didn't happen either, but now I'm seeing that maybe God couldn't get through to him so it was just better for my husband and I to split. That doesn't mean I have to be happy about it, but I am seeing a possible truth to this.

JennsJo: Thank you. The bible verse is a great reminder! I also needed to hear that there is light at the end of the tunnel.

bigguy3: You are absolutely right. I feel like a little kid who threw a temper tantrum because I didn't get what I want. The answer to my prayer was obviously "no" so I need to accept that and believe that better things are to come.

Sunshine0916: It really is hard to remember that God's plan is for our own good when we want so badly for it to be our plan that we live. I may never know the reason my husband left, but all I can do is accept it and try to move forward in my life. I'm definitely ready for that "OHHHHHH!!! I get it now" moment that you mentioned. I would feel so much better if I just knew a little bit about what God's plan for me is.

brokenheartgal: I'm positive you are right that my marriage wasn't perfect. It just seemed that way. I know that he had to have been planning to leave for some time. He just didn't communicate with me on why and that's the hardest part. I can't seem to find any closure, but I just need to accept that I will probably never know what happened and move on. Thank you for your advice, sweetie!

I've found Christians the hardest to get to "see the light". They are hellbent on the fact that God put them together, and bound them, and they just aren't trying enough to make it work. Don't get me wrong, they definitely do their due diligence in attempting to make their marriage work, but sometimes the answer is... God is telling them, that it's not meant to be anymore.

Drives me nuts.

I'm glad you aren't following that path.

I agree! The hardest part is to let go, and let God. This was very hard for me because I'm very codependent, and I wanted things to be the way I wanted them. I knew I was right and that my way was the right way. Only problem was there was another person involved, and that person didn't want to do things "the right way." At some point we just have to let go and see what life has in store for us. I don't feel so much like I have a higher power planning my future for me - more like I have something in my corner helping me through whatever problems I'm encountering. I don't feel there is a definite path I'm supposed to be on, just that whatever path I choose I'll be OK.

sounds so familiar..... my answer is, we have FREE WILL>.........................