You need to take your stuff off facebook and do what your husband's doing. Phone your good friends and tell them - and don't say anything to anybody else. Get through the emotional stuff with privacy, and then eventually let other people know down the track when you can say it without crying or blabbing too much, or looking like you're off your rocker.

People who are grieving need to stay away from socialising for a while. In a few years you're going to have to meet your ex husband here or there. In public. It'll be easier if you keep all this stuff private.

Hi - I agree with the above. Tell close friends everything as they can support you through this. Tell less close friends and acquaintances the 'edited' version when you feel strong enough. I know its hard because you are hurting so much but try to stay away from facebook and the likes. Seek out support groups such as this one, try self help groups and maybe look at CBT techniques to help you understand and cope with anxiety, download self help books as some of these are quite good. My husband left me on 6th January. Its still very painful and raw but you get past the crying every 5 minutes stage and things will gradually get easier to bear - HUGS

Divorce care will really help you too along with
Therapy. I had rage when i showed up at DC. It
took me a long time to move thru it.

During separation this is going to be a real
Rollercoaster of emotions and feelings. Many
Of them will be uncomfortable ones. Grief
brings it On whether we want them or not.

This is a great time to have as much healthy
Loving Support as possible. The rejection and
betrayal alone And then add in if you have old
abandonment issues Its going to be very
emotionally intense journey.

Nothing your STBX does will surprise most of
Us. They are no longer your spouse and they
Want out. I went NO CONTACT and moved
after the divorce and i am healthier for it, HUGS

You can be ok again, over time things will work out. I understand how you feel about trust, because I'm in that same position right now. I try to believe that some day I'll be able to trust again. Apart from that, I will not give anyone my power, I will not allow them to believe that they have control over me so I will do whatever I need to do to make myself better.

I agree with the others,... joining a support group right away would be a healthy thing. You would surrounded by others that are going through the same thing. And you would meet other people to support you and hopefully new friends!

If it helps, men don't usually "gush" their feelings on FB like women do. He might be feeling horrible too, but he most likely won't share it with everyone just because men aren't really "wired" that way. They need to share their misery when they are feeling bad yes, but they generally self-medicate in other ways than social media. (Think drinking with their guy friends, playing video games endlessly, and working too hard to avoid their emotional pain, etc.) So, try not to take it too personally that his way of grieving probably looks completely different than yours. I don't know the details of your situation, but men and women deal with pain so differently in so many ways...that its really best to work through your feelings without trying to "read" his. Any interpretation you attempt to make about him from social media will be skewed anyhow, as people generally try to put their "best foot forward" on FB. Men don't usually "get real" with an audience watching.

~Hugs, Prayers, and Blessings Friend.