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Here's the story. I am two months away from divorce. My wife left me and the kids a year ago September. I took it very hard but find myself healing. That is, she doesn't own my heart anymore. She is on her second boyfriend. I had a brief thing with a friend but have been alone for months. At work there is a young co-worker (I am 50 she is 25). She asked me to help her with her application to a graduate program. I did and she asked me to coffee. We went and talked for an hour an a half, lots of fun.
Last night was our staff holiday party. She had a little to drink and was very friendly. She asked me when we were going to go out to dinner. She is going away for the next couple of weeks on a trip to Europe. She wanted to go tonight, the one night before she left. I suggested that we wait until she gets home.
She is young and gorgeous. I will take her out to dinner when she comes back and can take things one date at a time no problem. I dont' want a serious committed relationship with a 25 year old who is going away to graduate school in nine months. Anything that I have forgotten to consider? I just am grateful that I am no longer hung up on my wife and am willing to see what other wonderful things life has in store for me (if this is any indication!).
Last night was our staff holiday party. She had a little to drink and was very friendly. She asked me when we were going to go out to dinner. She is going away for the next couple of weeks on a trip to Europe. She wanted to go tonight, the one night before she left. I suggested that we wait until she gets home.
She is young and gorgeous. I will take her out to dinner when she comes back and can take things one date at a time no problem. I dont' want a serious committed relationship with a 25 year old who is going away to graduate school in nine months. Anything that I have forgotten to consider? I just am grateful that I am no longer hung up on my wife and am willing to see what other wonderful things life has in store for me (if this is any indication!).
You sound practical and happy about the situation, and I am glad you are progressing so well in your recovery. That is such good news!
first, please forgive my bluntness but don't date women you work with. they are not worth the risk.
second, what if she gets pregnant? you will hit a wall.
listen, i am 54. you are 50. the best women for us are near our age. sure, young women are pretty and really good for our egos. but, they know how to play an old guy like us. find a damn good woman going through her menopause gig. you will find that you relate much better to her anyway.
get time on your side when it comes to dating and the possibility of love. don't waste time on side issues like young hot pants going to europe. take the time instead and use it to find a woman who has some genuine potential for heaven's sake. menopausal women are flighty as jaybirds but just roll with it. :)
again, sorry to sound blunt. it's just how i see it.
Pardon my crudeness, but you need to think with the head that's on you shoulders. ;)
If she wants something more, take it slow.
If you want something more, take it even more slow.
I think you need to find otu her intentions first. I imagine most men would tell you that you just hit the jackpot.
They dunno what they want. They're still getting their ideals on what life is supposed to be about straight, and the line between romantic partner and parent is very easily blurred.
Just don't get your hopes up too high.
Not that I'm holding a grudge or anything... :;-)
The red flag for me here is that you're coworkers and she's asking you for help? Just wondering...