I'm sorry you are going thru this, as so many of us here have done. It is excruciating and, yes, for a while you will be in survival mode. But, you will get thru it. Sometimes the best advice is to close your eyes, breath deeply, and just focus on the next step forward. And lean into your family and friends.

The standard line for a checked out Spouse is,
i love you BUT_____. Fill in the blanks.

I would get into therapy to help and guide you
and divorce Care helps with the grieving and
divorcing process.

Anxiety is nothing unusual, its fear of abandonment
add in rejection, pain, hurt and betrayal. Divorce
Is a huge emotional upset and upheaval on every
Level.

If they have an affair partner or a replacement
Ready that adds more Fuel to an already hot fire.
HUGS

I believe he has already found someone new and it makes it so much worst. All i want

To do is to get some sleep and i cant stop thinking about it.

Try to get some rest, i posted on your other
Share, hugs

bummer.. yah that double wammy. feel free to reach out to us ..

Sadly, there very often is someone in the wings...

What you are going through sounds like a carbon copy of my situation. Its 3Am at the moment and I'm awake because of a dream I had of her. These reoccurring. Dreams are the same. I call or talk to her and it's the same cold uncaring tone in her voice that smacks me in the face that this shit is over. And now I'm awake thinking about things.

My anxiety is so high right now just trying to relax... Its impossible. I know what you mean regarding the cold and uncaring. One minute he was cuddling then he goes on a business trip and comes back and he barely talks to me and then its over. Yes we had issues, but i always felt it was my responsibility to fix it. Not ours. I hope we both get some sleep tonight, because we will need it in the days to come. Hugs!

My heart goes out to you and you are not alone! Having experienced similar situations in my own past marriages, I agree with Strongandsilent in that you are in survival mode & this is tough spot to be in. You're in shock over your H's callous announcement that he doesn't love you anymore & you need to be easy with yourself right now & in future months to come. Good news is survival mode does end. Lean into your family/friends and trying focusing on the next step. DivorceCare, seeing both an individual & marriage counselors, as Mirandac suggests, helped me & plenty of others going through situations similar to yours. Good luck!