I am new here. Recently, there was an incident where my husband and I were arguing and he started ignoring me after lashing out at me several times thay day. It hurt my feelings and I poured a cup of water on his head. (A ridiculous thing to do) He got on top of me, choked me while I struggled, picked up the cup and smashed me in the face. He had had about 5 drinks. I called the police. He was not sorry and my face was bloodied as he broke a gash in my face. He was arrested and given a stay away order.
After this happened, I was in a state of trauma and just shock really. Not knowing what to do and not wanting to lose my financial situation (I have 2 young kids), I testified in his favor to help him get charges dropped.
Now I am trying to figure out what to do regarding custody. He has a temper and a moderate drinking problem but has never hurt our kids. This was the first time he actually hit me although he had lashed out at me verbally, restrained me, and intimidated me by cornering me and yelling so I couldn't escape. He wants shared custody. To his credit, hes been a good father and quite competent but sometimes gets mad when the kids display strong emotions.
How can I do the best thing for my kids? They love their father of course and would be devastated not to see him. Should I be fearful he will hurt them? My friends and family think I should allow him custody but they havent seen him the way I have.
I've been in relationship for almost 7 years. He is my best friend. We've always been friends first. We can talk forever about anything and everything. He had some setbacks with death of family member and losing a job. He is also in his 50's and having a mid life crisis. His mind hasn't been right for long time. We haven't been intimate for long time. I've been there for him in every and any way....