Justifiable homicide. sorry, my friends know what i have been through.

I guess she was pleased you asked your parents for money. Or she came in to lift your wallet and was pretending to be your daughter so you wouldn't notice

The way I see it, she's worried that her current way of life is going to end - thus the snuggling up to you.

With regards to "being the bad guy", well that's subjective. I think her strategy is to force your hand so that you appear to be the bad guy or else just deal with the status quo that is serving all of her needs.

BTW, my husband left me, but he did not leave our kids. We share 50/50 custody at his insistence.

@ reply 27 - I couldn't agree more.

Rman - I know I've said that to you before. Do you want your girls thinking this is normal. I completely understand not wanting the one to "end it". Trust me I can so sympathize with that. And I'm not sure if I would have the courage to end it if I was in your shoes as well. I don't know if this is the right thing....you're taking a huge sacrifice to keep your family "together" and like I said I understand that. My thoughts are you need to have a real conversation with her to really try and work on things. I know you're not a therapy person....but have you asked if she's willing to try couples counseling? If she is...I think you owe it to you and your family to try it.

That's something to think about. "Normal" your future son in laws may want to kick your ass.

Correct me if I am wrong, but did you and she and her parents have an intervention recently about trying to save the marriage? Didn't she say sher was willing to try and she wanted you to try?

You have, as I recall, said a few time son here that you miss the way things used to be with her.

So maybe, while this is confusing and not the routine you've become used to over the last while, it is a step in the right direction towards giving this last chance everything she's got. In which case, telling her she is pretty and that you are proud of her, might have felt real sweet to her.

I wonder if tonight you would do the same for her?

Knee him as hard as I could and while he's crying on the floor say to him, "I'd knew you'd come back you worthless piece of crap. Now get the fuck out and never come back."

Rman - my stbx and I both stayed in the marriage longggggggggggg after falling out of love largely in part to neither of us wanting to be the bad guy, so I feel your dilema.

With that said, if I woke up and found my husband in my bed I would ...ummm...dahhhh...mmmmm... I'd be speechless! I would simply assume he's decided to jump on the Viagra wagon. He never did have much of a sex drive....