are you two still sleeping in the same bed, rman?

I would be confused to the point of dementia. then I would ask her who died and why she couldn't go to someone else for for comfort.

I may also ask her how the hell she got into my apartment.

She is really messing with you, isn't she?
Rman, what the hell is this?

Rdude! WTF is she doing??? do you ever ask her that? i'm confused and I know you are too

hmmm........

I would kick him in the nuts and call the cops.

Do you guys have seperate bedrooms?

Wow...that is weird...like I said I would have asked her what the hell is she doing and that she's seriously fucked in the head...

happened to me too for about a week straight before I was going to move out of the house, she would come from work as a bartender, I would be on the couch sleep, and wake up with her on top of me hugging me...

she said she still needed affection and only wanted it from me...she confused the crap out of me...but saw through it...

btw...after no contact for 3 months she texted me yesterday for my forwarding address...ugghhhh...

Hug back...well I would....sometimes I long for it......ok I'm not there yet!

The reality is that I believe my wife is content with living her life this way. She's not really into affection and does not have a sex drive. She is mostly just into her children and this is the perfect situation for her. I'm just kind of settling for adopting this lifestyle, as well. Is it for the kids? Maybe. Is it fair to me? Probably not. But, I guess it's just difficult for me to have to be the one who leaves. I never wanted to be the bad guy. I only wanted to have a happy family.

Is it a happy family if you are miserable?

No, but that's what I wanted. I don't have it, but I also don't want my kids to say, Daddy left us. I never wanted to end it...

I hear what you're saying but like others have said here......do you want your kids thinking this is normal?

rman, as it stands now, you are passively agreeing with your wife that you two have an ideal relationship. if you two sit down, you can redefine it.

dysfunction is an agreed upon condition.

This is just so out of the realm of possibilities that it feels silly to even conjure up an answer. He can go fuck himself as far as I am concerned.

Now, if we are talking about you Rman... my question in response would be: why are you in the same bed with her? Why perpetuate a lie? For your children's sake? For your sake?

I have my own, separate bedroom. I haven't slept in the same bed as her since the birth of my 6 year old daughter. She came in my room. I leave the door unlocked so my kids can come in, should they want to see me. This time, kids were asleep and wife decided to come in my room.