16 months since he pulled away from me. 14 months since I knew more about why. I look at my journal and clearly remember how I felt. I do not know I kept putting one foot in front of the other, but I did and you will too. I really think it was the equivalent of being in an accident and being in shock. I don\'t know when closure will finally come but I do know that I am so much better than I was back then. Keep going - you will make it. That\'s the beauty part that this is a "universal" human experience. The painful parts are all very similar for all of us but so are the parts where we start getting better until we\'re finally good again.

It has been two and a half years for me and I have made great progress. I am emotionally very stable and the overwhelming majority of my anxieties are gone. I am excited to be alive and to be working on my future (Master in counseling). I never thought I would get there. When I left the mid-east in Dec 06 I really thought my life was over. In fact, I wanted it over. I don\'t have anyone in my life but I don\'t gauge my recovery by how many romantic relationships I have had. I have to be whole again to be in a true relationship. I\'m on my way.

Jeez - a little over 2 months for me. It\'s so freakin\' hard! I have good days and bad days but I think I\'m progressing well.
I just can\'t wait till it\'s all over in my heart and in my mind!

it wont be forever..just on some days it feels like it

i dont cry so much anymore but stil have the gut wrenching i dont think i can do it days


march march march

Feb 27th this year I got the call from the OW who was a friend of mine. Took another month before he confessed it was an actual affair. So 3 months for me as the time I found out it was an affair I fell back to the start again. I am struggling like many of us here but I couldn\'t do it without you guys. I am so thankful I came accross this group when I googled support networks. Thank you.

6 months for me too but it is getting better. I don\'t cry as much

8 months for me... and I cry @least once a day.

I think I need counseling. :(

aggie, hang in there. We are all on the roller coaster with you. It is easier for me at over one year now than at six months.

It is not where I want to be, but it is better.

Godspeed. Roadrunner99

Thanks RR - That is one of the good things about this site. There are so many people here in various stages that it is good to see those who have been dealing with it longer to be able to see that it does indeed get better.

Thank God for Google for bringing me here back in January.