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Its an emotion I DONT do well with.....
Honestly, I hate the feeling. I work so hard to be peaceful. It's takes just about an act of God to really hit my anger button.
Well, it got hit a few days ago when I received another email from my ex bf. This is the 3rd one in about 6 weeks. I did not open the last 2, so why this one?
I take full responsibility for opening it. Had I ignored and deleted, I wouldn't be here, stuck in this anger now
Basically it said its all my fault. I disnt communicate with him?!
Wtf?
11 months I waited while he was deployed. Countless letters everyday, packages, sent hi. Everything he wanted or needed. Only to come home to him shutting down and taking off. He was on leave for a month and took off for Florida ...no big deal...told me the day before he left..and then didn't speak to me for 3 weeks....and *I* am the one who doesn't communicate?!
Screw him.
And now it's my fault that he moved back to the west coast, is unemployed..and in the only bankrupt city in the whole freaking country.
Ugh.
Why am I dealing with this months after the fact?
And why is he bothering me?
Honestly....I went through a TON of shit with my ex husband...and don't ever remember feeling anger like this...
Wtf?
Know how it was topped off this morning? I had to go to a family gathering for breakfast...
Guess where I got to sit? At the table with the children....
And then when everyone shifted after breakfast....they made room at a table where I got sit next to a freaking "Barbie"
Ugh.
Honestly, I hate the feeling. I work so hard to be peaceful. It's takes just about an act of God to really hit my anger button.
Well, it got hit a few days ago when I received another email from my ex bf. This is the 3rd one in about 6 weeks. I did not open the last 2, so why this one?
I take full responsibility for opening it. Had I ignored and deleted, I wouldn't be here, stuck in this anger now
Basically it said its all my fault. I disnt communicate with him?!
Wtf?
11 months I waited while he was deployed. Countless letters everyday, packages, sent hi. Everything he wanted or needed. Only to come home to him shutting down and taking off. He was on leave for a month and took off for Florida ...no big deal...told me the day before he left..and then didn't speak to me for 3 weeks....and *I* am the one who doesn't communicate?!
Screw him.
And now it's my fault that he moved back to the west coast, is unemployed..and in the only bankrupt city in the whole freaking country.
Ugh.
Why am I dealing with this months after the fact?
And why is he bothering me?
Honestly....I went through a TON of shit with my ex husband...and don't ever remember feeling anger like this...
Wtf?
Know how it was topped off this morning? I had to go to a family gathering for breakfast...
Guess where I got to sit? At the table with the children....
And then when everyone shifted after breakfast....they made room at a table where I got sit next to a freaking "Barbie"
Ugh.
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Funny thing is, though, that my daughter forwarded a message from him to me---all very similar to what you had thrown at you.
It's an awful, overwhelming feeling getting smacked in the face AGAIN with all the crap that you had managed to put behind you.
It is such a hard job to get past it and move forward, and there's so much nasty pain in there!
Don't let message make you start doubting yourself again. He's responsible for his own life and his own decisions.
You probably opened that third email in hopes that perhaps there would be something positive within. Maybe somewhere deep down you wish it could have worked out. It may also be symptomatic of the fact you have not brought complete closure to this issue either. Why else revisit if it's behind you? I would examine the issues that broke the two of you up, come to terms with it, and move on without the possibility of reconnecting. As long as you keep him in an environment like email where he can contact you, the past will remain alive and well.