I'm on week 16 also! I had a good cry today in fact! But afterwards I actually felt a little better! For the first time ever! So there is some hope. I thought I would never feel even a tiny but better but today I do and that gives me great hope! Hang on there. I was married for 21 years so I didn't think I eould even make it this far.
Hugs to you

Thanks prettymama. Good to know I'm not the only one going through this. We were together 14 years.

This is totally normal. I don't remember the first three months after my husband left me. I was so sad, depressed, in shock that I literally don't remember the first three months. Months 4 - 6 were the most difficult because the reality had set in. I was sad and angry. Then shortly after 6 months something clicked inside of me. I was tired of being sad over someone that cared nothing about me. Tired of thinking about someone who had totally forgotten about me. I was ready to take my life back. I found the strength to move forward, to enjoy being alone, and set goals for my future. I started taking care of me! Started caring about me! Now almost two years later I am the happiest I have ever been and I am actually thankful for everything that happened.

I know you are probably tired of hearing this but give it time. Take care of you! Start putting yourself first! Find your inner strength...I promise it is there :)

Keep coming here for support. Are you on therapy? I really found it helpful and was even on depression meds for three months.

Sorry you are hurting... I promise it will get better.

Give it time...I'm almost a year after 24 years together..there are still some down days but the early months were hell. It has definitely gotten better. Keep contact to absolute minimum if there are kids involved, if no kids or no real reason to talk then don't until more time has passed and you aren't hurt by it. Over time it slowly gets more tolerable. Take care ..hang in there.

I agree with giving it more time. I was okay for the first 4 monhths or so - not really dealing with it I think, then totally crashed for months 4-6 or so. Just starting to feel better now - that came wht hard work, real efforts at positive thinking and counselling. This is a major life change - it takes time to adjust and process it all. It will get better. Take care.

1 1/2 years apart...still hurts , but less

19 years together... and I am trying to make sense of why the sudden change in her

Try to minimize contact or have NC no contact

it helps

We were married 7 years, second marriage for both. He left me last Feb. so I have hit all of the firsts (birthdays, holidays, his leaving, etc) . First few months were pure hell, I was a complete mess. Then I started doing ok for a couple of months (we don't have kids so I had to go NO Contact in order to survive) survived getting divorce papers, all of the crap that goes along with that, still doing ok but have had many back slides. A year later I still struggle but nothing like in the beginning and luckily not on a daily basis. I think acceptance of the situation was the hardest thing for me to get to. I always thought he would come back, I knew if I just held on he would come back....but he didn't and until I let that go, I was never going to start my recovery. The wondering why's was a killer but I learned I will never know why he left so I have to leave that behind as well.
Struggling is part of the journey and it comes and goes as it pleases so we just need to hang on and get through the rough times. Time really is our friend. Hugs!

I feel stuck too so I feel your sadness.

We seperated before 3 yr ago but for a year and i felt the same way. We again seperated 6mos ago but have worked on it off and on and it's just not working. I feel more sad unsure this is right or what I even want. Everyday he seems to want something different. But I can't ever sleep in this place I do t know why:( so I kinda relate. We have been together 13 yr never married tho.

I am currently seperated from my husband. He has been living with his parents (5 houses down from ours). I don't even remember how long ago he moved out.
It isn't what I wanted and I still feel emotionally drained. We would've had our 8th anniversary in August. We have not filed yet and maybe that is why I can't move forward. I still love him very much and I did not want this divorce. I find myself wanting to text him, to talk to him and to beg him to come back and love me again. It has been a battle to keep from doing that. Sometimes I succeed, other times not.
So, I know just how you feel and I really don't know if it gets better or when, but you are not alone in the pain. I know it doesn't help or make it better - one can only hope