In my opinion, you don't have to try and trust people. If someone wants to gain your trust, then you will let them...for now, you won't because you are pissed. Sucks and hurts like a motherfucker...sorry.

yep, after 25 years I thought mine would share our corner too but he crossed over to greener pastures for 5 weeks and then wanted to come back home ! I don't f*****g think so.
Yes I am devastated too but, but you only throw out trash once.
I think about love and trust all the time. I don't think I could handle being betrayed like that again, and I have a feeling any date [if ever that happens] would sence the bad vibes from me.
My husband really shagged up our marriage and also my future unless I get out of this rut !!!!! also hope your insides come back to life......

I thought i was going to be with my ex until the end of time too, but he deceived me and I no longer trust people. i don't know if I ever will again. I don't know if i will turn my back on people who seem to be caring because i am to afraid that they may betray me also.

It's hard. I don't know how to get rid of the anxiety in my head. Most days I just exist and try to accept that this is my life..If you figure this out. let me know how you did it. It just sucks..doesn't it?

I'm in the same position. He broke my trust countless times and everytime he says he's going to earn my trust back, he'll try for a few days then leave again, therefore breaking my trust AGAIN.

I am finding it extremely difficult to break this vicious cycle. I am also really scared of someone breaking my trust too, and I've been very untrusting of everyone new I meet. I don't know how to prevent this either.

I know how you feel. Wedding vows come back to kick you in the teeth, don't they? Forsake all others, in sickness and in health, for as long as you both shall live. Riiiggghhtt. I don't think my husband had a very clear understanding of the definition of the word "vow."

Do you have anyone that you do trust? A family member or old friend? I have to say that despite what I have gone through and am going through with my marriage, I do have one old friend who I trust completely. She gives me hope for the future. I think to myself that I don't know if I could trust my "husband" again or any other man in the future, but if I trust her, why couldn't I eventually trust someone else?

All I can say is that it will take a lot of time. Hopefully, when people earn your trust, you'll be able to give it to them. Trust is earned, not given away. I think at points like this in our lives we need to focus on healing, and let trust come later when its time.

For me trusting someone else isn't the issue, the problem for me is I have made this huge mistake believing I would be married forever so now I don't trust myself when it comes to relationships. I agree with Rman it sucks and hurts like a motherfucker.

Big problem here too.

Had a wife who cheated on me, took years to trust again, so we CAN regain our trust in people.

Found a woman I did trust and adore only for her to leave me because she wasn't and maybe never will be ready for a lifetime commitment.

I refuse to give up however. Once I have my head on straight I'm dipping my toes back in the water, or getting another dog :)

I am going through the exact same thing. My husband left last Friday, won't speak to me and won't admit he is having an affair.

Trust will come in time when you know its right. For now, work though the day to day, that is what I am trying to do.

......yes I will admit it hurts like a motherf^cker......I love and trusted this person emphatically.......we were a team......If any one would have asked me if she would have any affair I trusted her completely and would have said, "NO" I guess to N2storms point I can't trust myself any more....

I think that's the hardest part-not being able to trust yourself and your own judgment. That's where I'm at and its damn awful. Hang in there.

My ex left after 28yrs. when our daughters went off to college and it would have been the "empty nest". He had it planned for some time. I can and do trust my friends and family I just don't know if I will truly trust my new boyfriend when and if I ever have one. I will never marry again or become that involved again as I am starting to like being on my own.

Yes, I completely understand. For 31 years I was married to a deeply religious man with strong moral values, who went to church every week, etc., etc., He packed up and left while I was out - no reason, no other person, wants a divorce, wants our marriage annulled. Doesn't think I deserve spousal support - raised his children - always worked part-time but according to what he is telling others - I never contributed anything . I was just a leach sucking the blood out of him. Will I ever trust again? Not likely.!

What I'm reading and one thing I'm feeling is if the one person that we trust with our most intimate of experiences, decides that they no longer loves us......how the hell can you every trust again? We're the ones that struggled to put food on the table when we were first married, that were up @ 3:30 in the morning taking turns nursing our sick children,who traveled over 3 weeks of every month for 12 years only to find out that only thing you wanted was a physical relationship in a hotel room.....We're the ones in the trenches fight side by side, only to find the person you trusted the most life defects.....are you freaking kidding me!!!!!

We have to learn to trust again after healing from our betrayals.
What are the other options?

I don't want to be that old single man living alone in an apartment downtown. Who dies and nobody notices

Every human being can be deceived. It's how we handle the afterward/our response which is our truth/reality.