Wow... I'm newly single after being married for centuries to a cheating fuckwad, so I am completely un-hip to all things 'dating'.

One thing I have learned (from reading about online dating here) is that I can always pick up a replacement fuckwad with just a few clicks of the mouse.. awesome! What a bunch of jerks :(

I'd suggest volunteering or signing up for classes, anything you may have interest in learning... that way you stand the chance of meeting someone with similar interests/hobbies.

Although... blind leading the blind here!

he probalbly thought that you where not as serious as you are about just friends some people say that to take things slow the guy an asshole so dont give up i not really sure how to meet people work worked for me but the people are great i voulantried for a while there where people there the gym or classes but all these place and i still haven found a person i can be open with about how i feel all the time but i take what i can get and if the realtionship are totally forfulling i take some what forfulling sorry i cant just give you a answer that will cure the promblem and sorry that asshole treated you like that hope your able to find friends

hanna, all i use the dating sites for now is an ego boost. if someone comes along who actually clicks, they will be cool and i will know it. i have been talked to very harshly by some of the guys off of there and i dont take it personally anymore.

your guy had his ego bruised by you shutting him down, so he lashed out at you. glad you dodged that bullet, could you imagine a relationship with an asshole like that?

i agree with eph about getting out in the community. you can meet someone from the get go face to face and things seem to work out better that way..

there is a strange feeling from meeting people online. you email, then text/talk, then meet, so instead of the visual attraction turning to a mental one, it is a mental attraction that hopefully also is a visual one. there is something weird about that, i never get used to it.

so again. i use the online dating sites to hear how pretty i am and talk to guys here and there and move along, with no serious intention of meeting any of them..

i did do a marathon dating session 3 in one weekend and they were all strange, it was interesting, but i would never do it again.. the first date, the guy told me about his horrid abuse from his stepdad within the first 15 minutes. the next date, over breakfast the guy picked my brain the whole time on how to open a business and negotiate lease terms. the next date, the guy was 10 yrs older than his pic. split a meal with me and took 2 calls from his teenage daughter for her lobster order. woah!!!

good luck out there, the right one will come along and it sounds like you are being very smart about choices. all good stuff.

sorry you got talked to so rudely, that sucks, the guy is a dick.

Reading those text prove that he is not "Stable".

TG you didn't meet him. You bruised his ego and he got pissed. It was more of him being a big fat baby than you. I like what Ephemerally said. Go out and volunteer and sign up for non credit classes at your local community college. Anything thats has socialization involved.

Hanna,

Unless you feel you are ready to start a relationship, do not tell anyone you have BP right away... I usually wait until strong feelings begin....face to face, with no distractions, and you trust that he won't turn asshole on you right away like that guy did...
BTW, be glad you never met that other guy, he just sounds like an asshole!!!

I agree with signing up for classes or taking some classes down at your local library. Since you are learning something it will be a great central focus and take the pressure off talking to others...you can talk about the class with others if you want!

People like that man aren't worth your time anyways. He was probably a manipulator.

I met my man on match.com.....plenty of fish was a bunch of losers. Meeting anyone now a days is so hard, even just approaching them.... If your like me, no other girlfriends to go out with on a whim, going out alone is hard, signing up for classes costs money..... free anything, like volunteering can take up ogles of time... you need to heal from your ECT first, and when you are ready, go for it!!!

Hahahahahahahaha!!!!!!

Boy!!! Did YOU ever make the right call in not meeting this guy!!!!

Those texts!!!!! LOL!!!!! What an Ultra-Maroon!!!!

You seem very tuned into your gut reactions and you've got the wisdom to follow them!!!!
Good for you!!!!! Your instincts will serve you well!!!!

I accepted a Friend Request from someone on DS.

The purpose of our relationship was to trade jokes and he had a million really good ones.

He wanted my Email address so that he could send funny attachments.

Actually, I hand out my Email address rather freely if I like someone and they seem 'safe'.

But I balked at giving it out to him. He sent so MANY messages.

He kept badgering me and after a few weeks, I finally caved.
Nothing terrible happened, but it DID turn out to be a mistake and I told him not to contact me anymore.

For a couple days, he kept sending things to me. I didn't even open them. Just deleted them. He finally gave up, thank God.

I should have followed my instincts.

As to meeting potential friends, I started looking around online I found a group that said it was for meeting people and was NOT a dating site. Friend-spot.com .

So I said I wanted to meet both men and women, of any age, who lived within 10 miles of me.

It found 2 supposedly suitable possibilities.

Both were females. One was shown in a slightly flirtatious pose.
The other one showed a side view of how she looks from the waist up to the neck.
One lived about 2 hours away from me.

So much for THAT site!!!!

Still, I'd poke around online to see if I came across something acceptable.

Do you like taking classes of any sort?

Are you willing to check out a Unitarian Church? They're very progressive, usually into intellectual pursuits, and don't care WHAT you believe in when it comes to God(s) or if you're an atheist and don't believe in any God(s.) They practice tolerance.

Any NAMI or Bipolar support groups nearby?

Can you check with your local city hall and/or your library? They often have information on neighborhood activities.

I just looked up my city hall website. Boy, is IT pitiful!!! Hardly any information at all and none of it worth anything.
The best it had was a 'Social Networks' - coming soon.

But we only have a population of about 6,000.

Plug in the name of your local park district. I just checked my larger, neighboring suburb and there's loads of programs for all kinds of things!!! Aquatics, horseback-riding, bus tours, meditation classes, art classes, etc. Check yours and see if you find something you like.

Good luck!!! I hope you find a way to meet agreeable people and even find some you really click with!!! (((((Hugs)))))

so sorry that was your experience.that guy sounds like a hugs asshole.i dont do online dating,for just that reason.heard lots of bad stuff.i meet people at church ala non meeting,social situations. good luck to you.
gina

Hi Hanna~~

What do you like to do? Some of my best RL friends are ones I've met through shared interests -- church, yoga class, the dog park, volunteering.

For me, friendships develop more naturally when I'm not focused on making friends but something else. I tend to weird myself out when the attention is all on making friends.

Good luck to you. Glad you handled your online friend.

For real? His immature attempts at insults prove that he must be just that...

I know Hanna.....where I am at now I have zero friends...all my friends are back home and 99% of them are married, moved away, or the friendships have dissolved over time.....Early-mid twenties, had tons of friends doing all kinds of stuff together.....by around 30, just about everyone was married. Then, kids, spouse and family, and work take up all your time....Then for 50% of marriages, failure results, and your sent back in to the world with most frienships disolved leaving you bored and depressed....I tried the date site thing and that was just complete folly. The only girl I ended up dating from one of the sites ended up being even goofier than me! Within 2 weeks after spending a weekend together, I had like 3 I love you cards sent to me and a whole bunch of cd's of her music.....Then she was complaining to me that she was the only one sending stuff...I was like huh?...Then she yelled at me and became upset because I did not correct my 9 year old son for belching from soda.....I learned then and there to exit that relationship asap!.....Friendships take time to build. And the older you get, friends become fewer and fewer. If you were a drunkard you could just keep going to the same bar and meet people that way Friendships can also be forged at work but since you are not working this is no option. Going in blindly to hang out with someone you nothing about from the internet is not a good option. I am an anti-churchite, so getting involved with a church group is just out of the question as religion has a tendency to twang me..... You are almost in the exact situation I am in.....stuck, in a suck situation.....And I see no way out of it in the near future....If you figure it out let me know and maybe I will try the same route!

What so now your not bothering with me, hanna, he's a jerk.

He is obviously a large child and you bruised his ego, so he had a tantrum. I used to use a dating agency (prehistoric on-line dating LOL) and I had to sift through a lot of creeps and assholes, but I did find a couple of relationships, last one being the man I married. I know you're not looking for that, but maybe you shouldn't give up on the site just because of one big baby.
Of course, there have also been a lot of great suggestions by other people on here that you should try as well