....it's a many splended thing....

I have only been in love once,and I would have walked through fire for this girl, but it didn't work out.

I believe love is not a feeling, but an action.

do you know when im manic, i ask this question over and over again..i have a partner and everything but love is such a powerful word to me and one ive used sooooo many times without even thinking..im not sure the answer to this..is anybody?

love is just chemical and electrical signals in the brain.

I think it is a feeling that you cannot live without this person and you need to be near them all the time or else you are unhappy. Obviously good sex helps but is not necessary. I have fallen in love in my mind with my husband of 18+ years and in my heart I know that he is the right person for me. Marraige has it's ups an downs but they will be there for you through good times and bad. That is my humble experience with love...Good luck to you, remember everyone is like a 1/2 apple there are two sides to an apple and there is a person to compliment everyone. Have faith that there is someone out there for you. I know I have found my other half of my apple!!! Good luck to you on your journey to find your Ying to your Yang!!!

a big part of love for me is being able to tell someone anything and know they won't judge you. they know the good and bad about you and still want to be with you.

I agree Patty

Paitent kind, forgiving understanding long suffering doesnt keep account of the injury and seeks the benefit of the other not the self.

Sounds like a simple question, but it isn't, especially for us BP folks. It's easy to be loving and expansive when manic. Have you ever noticed how your feelings change (even just a little) when mood changes.

I am less loving and fogiving when depressed, tend to be angrier.

Makes it hard to know what love is, or who it is you truly love. Years ago, way back in the way back, I had a very close relationship with two different men over a two and a half period of time, saw them almost every day, one sexual relationships (Later amrried him) the other plantonic (we were attracted to each other very much.) It did become sexual with him for a short time right before we both left college, then went our seperate ways. It was then that I knew.

I finally slept with the other one (was platonic), and realized too late that he was the one I truly loved. I have to say it was a romantic evening, experience. He is the very sort of man I could love and be attracted to.

I'm wondering now to what extent it screwed my life up and how things would have gone if I had chosen him. I know it would have been much better. He said all along it should have been the two of us that got together. I know I made the wrong choice. Still dealing with it. Especially now that I'm writing the memoir, and I am having to sort through these memories and feelings. Not so easy!!!

It's hard as hell being BP.

It's hard to know your own mind and heart with mania and depression ruling your life.

It has ruled my life what could be more horrible! I hate it.

It's a very very bitter feeling!!!!

I've stopped eating (not entirely but enough to raise eyebrows from shrinks and family doctor and I've heard a few hospital threats and feeding tube threats.) They think it's just mood stuff, but between you and me fellow bipolars there's a whole lot of psychology here, too.

I am deep down mad that the "choices, non-choices thanks to BP, I've made" have COST ME SO DEAR!

It's cost me so dear, I am so mad, I can't eat! Seriously!

HAS ANYONE ELSE HERE FELT THIS WAY??!! Please tell me how you dealth with it.

Sorry, love is a real touchy subject for me at the moment especially writing the book! Intense emotions. An avalanche of memories.

It's not the bad memories that are getting to me the most writing this thing. I surely thought that would be the case. It's the good memories that are blowing me out of the water.

I've had a tough go with this issue. No joke.

Love,
Eve

Love is a mystery that I'll never be able to figure out unfortunately.

I think Love is something that has to grow between two ppl who CHOOSE to not BE together but STAY together.I have been married for 16 yrs and I truely think love is something that has to grow and accumulate between to willing ppl.It is not this magical fru fru thing that you automatically recieve .That is lust it wanes after awhile love stays and grows and changes and gives you the hope you need to keep on when you feel like throwing in the towel.The strength you need to keep on.The ability to love thru things and accept faults and weaknesses.

There's something wrong w/me. I fall in love constantly.
I think love is willing to give of yourself for the other person.

Love is caring for someone so deeply that you want what is best for them, and you want to be a better person with and for them.

Love reply #15

I think that one fits with how I view "loving someone".

I love my boyfriend. I think he loves me, too, but he told me he will not say it until he is ready to get married to me. He thinks I will push him to get married if I know he loves me.

Given my history with men, he is right. But, I would still like for him to say it. He definitely shows it through his actions. He is always doing nice things for me, calls me a lot, e-mails me a lot, is kind to me, is patient with me, likes to be with me and tells me so, etc.

Peace, LOVE, and joy,
Wendy