I ask myself the same question all the time.

ditto...

Oh heretic...........I feel the same way

especially the part about being loved.......BP might be tolerable if I had a soul mate who really cared for me

I think we can have a mental illness and find love.

I have two websites I could introduce you to that are for friendship or romance. I joined both so I could tell others what they are like. I think it took away some of the pressures one might feel about having to disclose our mental health issues in the beginning of a friendship/relationship.

At the moment at least, I have found love-I am taken care of-and I have multiple mental illness.
(It did take my husband a couple of years to accept the new me, but he seems to have accepted me as I am now. I am also feeling better)

I gave an extra long and full of energy prayer for you the other night.

That's not the way the Universe works. Good things happen to bad people. Bad things happen to good people.

"Sometimes life showers us with diamonds, other times it extracts our blood for paste." Peter DeVries

I think that when people expect life to be fair, they set themselves up a world of unhappiness.

Gramma always said
"Life isn't going to always be fair....but I expect you to be fair all the time "

I still deserve love , companionship , someone to share with

I had given up on having any male companionship for the rest of my life other then ,arried husbands that said Hi to me at church.

And then a single male mentioned that he was going to do something for me that is way out from left field. So you never know. It might not be a quickie short term relationship but it might be conversation and an occasional wine. Gotta take what you can get

marilyanna - thanks for trying to help but I do have people to talk to (I don't drink so I don't need the occasional wine). I have been settling for conversations with people for a long time. What I need is a life partner to share daily life with. Some one to live with and take care of. I hear that you have given up, I give up all the time, but my need doesn't go away just because I give up. I still need and deserve to be loved by someone who puts my needs first.

I feel the keenness of your cry. I feel lonely because my BP wife is in hospital.
I know also that not many people one to know how we suffer.I feel for you and your suffering, but is that enough?

Jut before I got married, I could not think how I owuld meet any woman (I don't drink, smoke or listen to loud pop music- I don't like pubs!)I wrote to Christian Friendship Fellowship. They asked in return that yo belive in the Christian ethics. I put my requiremetns and I receive a HUGE pack full of applications from the whle country. I chose a few people in my area, or at least easy to reach.
/several people wrote to me. Only one got my attention because she sent a first class stamp. So she was the first. I wrote back to her. One day, I phoned her and we met in Paddington station. WE have been married together for 19 years. My poor lady is seriously ill and is in hospital. But that was really worth doing.
CFF, Baltry House, Doncaster.

Everyone says DS is not a place to meet life partners. I agree that people should not be making unwanted advances on people who are unwilling and uncomfortable.
I do think we should have a group for all the single folk to mingle and possibly develop healthy friendships/relationships. I am aware of one group, but it mainly talks about sex which is nice sometimes. I'm referring to a place that would have less sex and more healthy friendship that would lead to a possible life long mate.

We either get the best people or the worst...........have yo noticed?

Im so sorry you're feeling this way sweetie... you do deserve to be loved and cared for..
This is a story I heard from a Rabbi on Mysteries of the Bible one espode... they were talking about the Book of Job...and trying to figure out why things went as they did re the unfairness of life..
A man asked God.. why do you let terrible things happen.. earthquakes.. starvation... illness and why don't you do something about it... and God replied I did I sent you..
I think of this sometimes when I get low and sad and try to look at things another way...Huge hug of comfort for you..xo

I decided to go on protest against God. He has always given me nothing but a lifetime of grief. He has shovel shit into my life since I was born.

Cursed to a lifetime of living hell. So unfair.

I agree with Carla. If you expect fairness out of life you are setting yourself up for exasperation and despair. Sorry to be a bummer...but I just don't belief life happens that way. Otherwise we could say that children who die in wars and so on "deserved it". There is no rhyme or reason for a lot of what happens. Which is why we should be compassionate, because suffering, needless suffering, happens all the time.

I am with Carla and Zsa - Life is not fair nor is it supposed to be.