Who's responsible for the treatment of diabetes? The patient.
There's nothing or anyone to blame. You have an illness. It is treatable, tho I'm prolly not the best example of it working lately. Accept that it is manageable and there will be "flare ups."
Most people with bipolar are not even noticed by others, because they manage symptoms well with therapy and medications and other self care.
Hang in there

That's what's wrong with the world when mental health takes a backseat to physical .... Bipolar Is treatable not cured yet like other health issues.... I have been relatively stable for four years with the right med combo and self care ....I have family that doubt the dx as I doing well for now ... And there is no doubt I have bipolar.... Hang in there you will be ok trust your doctors ..((hugs)) polar

So, BiPolar Disorder is not a Physical Disease...sorry...it's a Mental Disease. It's a Mental Disease that will never have a cure, because it is caused by a chemical imbalance in the brain....a genetic/development component. The only possible cure would be the creation of a "1st or 2nd Trimester Pregnancy Screening Test" and then an In-Utero chemical adjustment via a genetic/chromosomal adjustment to alter the brain chemistry......and you can pretty much be assured that those 2 things will never happen.

I think your "wanting to blame someone" was meant a little more metaphorically and not quite so "as read". When people are diagnosed with most Severe Mood Disorder Mental Illnesses, they don't accept the diagnosis at first.....its too scary, confusing, terrifying to do so. After all, every bad guy on the news, every rapist, mass shooter, murderer, etc. usually gets labeled with some Mood Disorder Mental Illness...nobody wants to associate with that.....and Nobody wants to admit that their life is out of control and they are constantly hurting themselves and their loved ones with their actions....but they don't know how to stop the "actions."

But after a while, acceptance sets in, acceptance comes from desire to be okay, to be safe and normal, etc. So when your ready to hear it, you do and you accept that BiPolar is Disease that has to be folded into your everyday life, for the rest of your life and it has to be managed with meds and therapy. Getting to Stable is the goal, and that goal can be reached for long periods of time....but you have to manage the Disease.

Glad that your into acceptance and making decisions that will make life easier for you eventually.

Take Care,
K

The blame options are still available, but proactive personal responsibility gets me further. My shelf full of Blame Game Trophies gets tedious to dust. Whatever the cause or classification, it remains mine to deal with, however I choose to play the hand.

Gentle support while you find the treatment plan that works for you, Nows.

Hi and Welcome nowstill..... I'm glad you've found us.... This is a great board.... We've all been at the beginning stages of figuring out our disorder.... The good news is it's treatable and there is stability to be had.... Big hug.....xo

Yes, indeed! Welcome to the bipolar forum.

I knew something was wrong with me from my teens. There were too many mood swings, anger, and psychosis that left me undiagnosed for 20 years.

I went to a psychiatrist for depression, because my family doc figured I was too up and down. When the psychiatrist told me I had bipolar 1, and it could be treated, it was the most wonderful thing I had ever heard. I had played the blame game for years. Esp. with my parents, who, like all parents were not perfect.

The lithium helped instantly. That is what you have to look forward to! And getting out of the blame game, and managing your own symptoms.

I always suggest a mood chart. Besides mood, you put down the meds you are on, irritabilty, and exercise. That was great for me! Plus, a little place to make comments and notes about triggers and victories.

This is the one I have used for 11 going on 12 years now. It is an important tool for you to see your progress and identify the things that trigger you.

http://psycheducation.org/wp-content/uploads/2014/11/MoodChart.pdf

It is that self-responsibility that actually gives me the feeling of freedom from the horrible prison of sick, care-givers, and self-doubt. I know that as long as I take care of myself...I can be myself.

I was glad to find that my "craziness" had a name. 31 years of hell and FINALLY I was diagnosed. Happy Day. You learn as you go...it's manageable most times. And yes, it is a physical illness too. The brain isn't functioning like it should with the Seratonin and Norephenphrine (sp?). It's def. physical. yet it affects our thinking as well. This is a good place to be (DS), very helpful and compassionate.