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Well my Wife has finally had enough.

pattongb
pattongb
She says she cant live with my highs and lows anymore. She tells me she still loves me, and we are best friends; but im not even sure I believe that.

She has given me one chance: be by myself (im moving into our spare room) dont come to her or ask her for anything. Get myself better and I also have to get help for drinking.

Then we can go on a few dates and try to see what we have. If she has forgiven me and has anything left for me.

It all scares the crap out of me, but I guess i should be thankful I have a shot, even if I dont believe how sincere she is about it.

I feel a lot of guilt for putting up with my depression for so many years, and my life not moving forward as it should have. She has endured a lot and stuck by me up till now.

I also feel some betrayal as I really believed she would stay with me through these things, no matter what.
dancingd
dancingd
Patton,it seems like you are really serious about getting better,and you ar obviously wanting to keep your marriage together.
As long as you are in the house ,and working on yourself to get better,your chances are better .
Once again,if she will discuss it with you,try communicateing to her,you want to cherish her,and then try to find out what that means to her.What actions can you take to show her your seriousness.
Also,she may need some time to work through her own anger.
Just keep on your program,love her...and I wish you the best!
deleted_user
deleted_user
Mental illnesses can't be fixed, but like anything else they can be managed. I don't think you're wife expects you to miraculously get better over night, she just wants you find help so you can get your issues under control. Just because she vowed to stay with you through thick and thin doesn't mean she should stand by twiddling her thumbs every time you self-destruct. Try to step back for a minute and see things through her perspective. She loves you but she also has an obligation to look out for herself. The sooner you understand this the easier it will be to salvage what's left of your marriage and start anew.
deleted_user
deleted_user
OMG, I just went through this with my hubby, no alchol but the on off med thing and him having to work with me home and bills eating us up and him not trusting me to get it together... we haven't exactly got it all worked out but I have done a complete overhaul on me and told him I will love him unconditionally until he can work the rest out for himself... wow...amazing how many people go through this and I truely thought I was all alone... scary thing is most of the stories are almost exactly the same... I am here if you need to talk
deleted_user
deleted_user
I haven't read all the other responses but I just want to encourage you to see your pdoc regularly and take your medication as prescribed. Second, cut out the drinking. I am an alcoholic and discovered it was *really* exacerbating my condition. Since stopping it has been much easier to manage and I haven't been depressed at all.