even now men insist on control of woman body/health.
after all we're just woman here to serve n be used by them. even now that's how they think.
did u c where nut is trying to make into law. where it so that woman are forced to breast feed. and hospital won't be allowed to offer baby formal. Now the nut says that a woman is to be made to breast feed for frist 2 mo's of baby life. I guess baby form-lur companys jumped all over him. Regarding companys protest, it has nothing to do w woman rights but all about money.
He's the same nut that insist on outlawing lrg soda's ( sugar ) drinks.
he wants it to be against the law to sale n serve over certain amount of oz's of soft drinks.Granted in fines, that would create income for his state.
Even now people are so dam clueless about wad law. it is a woman right to have rights - control over her own body and not men.

According to my Mother. at age 3. I told her that I didn't want to have baby. same as age 9 & 17...
I selected a man to marry, who already had children & who would not demand that I have his baby, being that he already had child/children. It worked out for me.
I choise not to do so.I have no regrets. Male Dr's throughout my life insisted that I do so.sad part is. so did a few woman who worked in medical field. I didn't nor do I need children to be a whole person.

I'm a god Mother and an aunt to 3 relatives & many non related adults. who I watched grow up & was blessed w being able to interact in their childhood.
My family at beast have no more than 2 children w/in their life.
my brother has 1 daughter. she has 1 child. My sister has 2 children.
Girl n boy. the girl insist that she is going to have his-to - rect-o my because she refuses to have child/children.
My sister son has already had his tube tied. he still in high school.

Even now we need to band together to have legal rights to our own body's.

Absolutely you posted a great post.

I'm not a lady by any means but I think you should do exactly what you want for yourself. I'm amazed that here in 2012 we're still fighting the control freaks!

Seems rather strange if you had (a child) children to put up a fight to stop you. If you hadn't had children could understand a bit better.

I'm male I never had children but been on high procrastination street for ages about getting the snip myself.

Whats the right age? I didnt get any grief from my doc and i was 27.. had kids and didnt wantnanymore.. i do not regret my decision... i had three and my body couldnt even be bothered to carry another.. much less my nerves be capable of raising another.. im at the halfway mark for done raisingn kids next year and im cool.. besides after the pos i had my last two kids with.. i dont trust myself to find a reasonable father for babies.. and wouldnt ever want to go thru custody crap again.. "shes bipolar" the way people can throw around that word to convince others youre unsafe is ridiculous.. i feel like an ogre.

I backed out of mine right before my c section with my NOW 7m old baby girl.

I couldnt live with knowing I gave up a chance to make another beautiful child. What if the next egg in line was the Albert Einstein gene!

Im sure my sanity would be greatly tested..... and Id be cursing myself when I start showing... and gaining... and bloating. and stretchmarking... and swelling my feet up and my face.....

But.... I honestly wouldnt know love if I didnt have babies.

I got patience enough for one more.. I think.... JUST NOT RIGHT NOW.

But its true.... dont listen to them docs.... if you want it done.... you should be able to get it done.

And sometimes its not about age... if you have already had a child... or even a boy and a girl.. they are all for it.

I was 26 when I had my last child aand it took til I was in my 40s and facing yet another fibroid tumor disaster before a kind male doctor said hey how bout we take everything out tho yes at age 26 they did tie the tube (only had one as had lost the other)

Ironically they told me when they tied the tube but refused the hysterectomy that if I was to get pregnant again it could quite possibly kill me

I was in my twenties as well when I had my tubes tied.. however due to the fact that i'ts a permanent solution as reversal seldom works I think the doctor does have a responsibility to have a patient stop and think about the decision.. I don't think (at least for the most part) that they want to stop you from the surgery as much as weigh the options carefully... It was a good decision for me as well..x

I had one child at 21...I asked my Dr to tie my tubes at 22 ...I had to get written permission from my ( then ) husband .....yep, hard to believe , it was the 70's

I wanted a hysterectomy starting at age 19(no children) no one would do it or tie my tubes. So I fought the birth contrl fight until age 26 when my bone marrow disorder made me too high of a clotting risk and no one would prescribe them anymore. Then my husband(no children) went to Planned Parenthood, got all the tests, paid $200 and had a vasectomey at age 26. No problems, I didn't have to sign anything or even go with him. Then finally at 32 my health dictated that I have a hysterectomy(HOORAY). It sucks when everyone presumes to know more about what is right for you and your life. My mom had a hysterectomy at age 24 so I knew I would eventually have to have one because we both had the same problems. Best thing I have ever done.

A hysterectomy is a bit extreme with out a real medical reason to do it. If you have one (medical reason) though I'm all for it.

The reason a hysterectomy is not done as a method of birth control is because your ovaries plays a vital part in hormone regulation. Not only this but the sling they replace your uterus with some times slips and causes pain and presses on the bladder. And other medical complications can arise because of a hysterectomy. So with out a real medical reason to do it I agree with the doctors on that one.

As far as tubes being tied I guess it depends on the doctor. I had one boy and one girl and it made no difference I was too young? Of course this was coming from a doctor with many children.
I got all kinds of arguments like
what if I meet a young hot guy who wants children?
what if one of my children dies?
what if I change my mind?

I agree it is meant as a permanent solution but why are women forced to think about it when men aren't? That seems a bit sexist. When a man says he doesn't want children no one questions it but when a woman says it, she needs time to think about it? It is a big decision I agree but don't patronize me please I hate that.

Any how being assertive is what works most times. I just wanted women to know that they can get it done even with a stubborn doctor. It's your body not your doctors. The choice should ultimately be yours. That was the point I was trying to make.

Yep. Yep. I have several women friends who were simply not able to get their tubes tied until their 30's because of sexist doctors.

I want to get pregnant in the next year, however, and am kind of glad they wouldn't do it for me in my 20's. Just sayin'.

I had 4 children and glad for everyone of them. Then I had a series of operations for other things, like appendix, gall bladder. That is when I told hubby it was his turn to get snipped.

I had a lot of female issues, but I didn't want a hysterectomy. If I had listened to one doc, I wouldn't have my daughter. Menopause was horrid, but I found a great old Chinese doc, who let me go on progesterone instead of estrogen, which triggered bipolar. He told me I didn't need a hysterectomy and I would be just fine when I got the bleeding under control. Never regretted it . One less surgery for this battered body.

But I think it should be a personal choice - either because you don't want children, any more children or health reasons. I chose not to, but no one should be forced to have children because a doc refused to give them the tubal they wanted.