Ring the doctor, let them know that he is off his meds and the problems you are having.
If he has a good doctor he or she should be able to drop in to see how he's going.

Don't tell him that you called his doctor. You'll just get it in the neck.
There is no talking to him when he is in this state.

Best of luck.
MJ

there is a support goup for famiy and friensd of those with bipolar disorder they may know more about what you can do. I dont know how you would coverup caling his doctor but if you can do so... My suggestion is dont engage him AT all when he goes in on you just shug it off remember that its NOT YOUR FAULT as many times as you can sip it in tell him at eas to speak with a therapist let him know you feel he should go back on his meds. Know that without his meds your relationship is in jepordy let him know that. you should only be with some one who wants to be better. If he persists it maybe time for a break let him know u wil be there for him but you need him to be healthy and not make you unhealthy. Start with affirming to yourself. Its not me then continue with not engaging him pretend his abuse does not bother you one bit ( You have to protect yorself) hope this hepls

Oh my, sorry your unwarrently endureing abuse.
BP'ers are known to discontinue thier meds but this is not an excuse for thier ugly - mean behavior which they are well aware of and can control. However w/in difrent phases of BP - a person may not be able to prevent outburst of ugliness.

Self abuse comes in many forms and not obtaining medical care and/or refuseing to take physco meds is not only self abuse but a way to abuse others but is not an excuse to abuse.

I care about my freinds and neighbours etc... so I have daily service of in home health care service.

The person who self abuseing may also benifit from a mood stablizer in addition to reg physco med.
Your not his/her doc so depart abuseive enviroment or person will suck your life dry just like a vaccumm.

I recommend that you remove the negitive person from your daily enviroment. Your not a therapest nor pdoc right.
Please do not allow anyone to abuse you.

You may also wish to join emotional and physical support group on DS.
maybe we can get 1 of girls to repost signs of abuse, as in list of abuse and effects of abuse.
Abuse & relentless stress can alter our brain to point we too will require physch meds for the rest of our lives.
being around a person who is abuseive and who refuses to take thier medication can have such effect on your own mental health.
leave the person to the professional who are trained to deal w him/her at any point - on any level.
If the person choise to do as you say then let him/her crash - there is safty net already in place to scoop up and care for such destructive people.

Keep us posted,k

Oh ya, I personnal would contact his doc w/o his knowledge and see if not takeing his med is a form of him indangering his own self and if so if its possible to get the courts to have him placed in hospital for up to 72 hrs while they get him bk on his medication and evalurate him.
Yep his Doc can do this.
If he is a threat to his self and/or others the courts can admit him into hospital for everyone safety & peace of mind.

Again I surgest that you take care of yourself by removeing an abuser out of your daily enviroment. Your not his/her pdoc,right!

This is one of the problems that I had with Brad.Call the doctor as soon as you can.THIS ISNT YOUR FAULT.....CALL THE DOCTOR IMMEDIATELY AND LET ME KNOW HOW YOU ARE .I AM WORRIED ABOUT YOU....VADER...E MAIL ME WHEN YOU CAN.;VADER...

Thank you for your support. I just feel alone and didnt know where to turn with this. These give me some things to think about. When I have told him he has to get on the medicine again or have tried to discuss him leaving he becomes enraged and has made threats. I become scared and I just leave him alone. I know this is not the answer.

eat peanut butter & jelly sandw if neccessary- to save enough money to obtain your self your own apt.
Let him crash. there a safety net already in place for people like him in his state of mind.
It's only going to get worst.
Protect yourself and take care of yourself.
If he is self abuseive and is or will become a threat to his self and/or others you or his Dr can get the courts to get him into a hospital where they can evalurate him and restart his meds and his Dr can visit him while he's in the hospital.
Please dont wait to contact his Dr after he starts to have black out moments.
Dont tell him what you are doing or might do etc... ---he's a physch patient w/o meds.
Again take care of your over all well being and this includes your own mental well being.

Call the mental health department and have them in the straight jacket squad!!

He has threatened you which makes him a danger to others, maybe law enforcement would come and pick him up on a psych call. Call the dr and see what happens.

If the pdoc will not get involved, leave him. Don't say a word just leave and hide from him. Try to get a protective order if you are afraid of him coming to your work.

I'm a firm believer in removing yourself from abusive people as much as you can. Maybe not forever, but letting him walk on you just makes it easier for him to live with his manic rage, but if he loses contact with you he will have to wake up to what he is doing. I'm sorry about the threats. Maybe WEAVE?

I think she is asking us what she should do to help him stop, right? Get him help period......if he IS being dangerous to you or himself then you can him in, just call the cops or the mealth health and they will Baker act his butt. Then maybe he will listen to reason

Get a cheap portable voice recorder. Tape a few minutes of his outbursts, then play one back when he stops to breathe. If he breaks the damned thing in a rage, walk away, get out of the house, and find a way to live somewhere else.

My ex had BP and would get REALLY abusive whenever I would suggest (because she was being somewhat little abusive) that she hadn't taken her meds. Most of the time it turned out that she had forgotten, but it was a real catch 22 situation. With luck he will realize what a complete sh*t he is being. I can sympathize with someone who is mentally ill, but not to the point that they can abuse me whenever they feel like it.

Would you stand out in the street during a hurricane? Not I. Either they go, or I do, at least until the storm has passed.

Boundaries. Move out, it's completely unacceptable...moreover, if he gets psychotic/manic then call authorities on him..not police...pdoc services.

If he is not willing to help himself...
Get the hell out of Dodge.
Be safe.

Nobody should allow themselves to be verbally abused,As hard as it is sometimes to let the person or people go and remove them from our lives it is something that has to be done. I have just been going through this and it's heartbreaking at times but protect yourself it will only get worse.