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TC40
TC40
Yesterday....my mother threw my "mistakes" in my face again. Talking sh** about how the jobs I lost this past year were ALL MY FAULT. she pulled this crap two hours before I had a job interview. She said she was just trying to "help me". I told her that when she says these things, it just tears me down and that I can't have her saying these things to me. Her response was "yeah, I know I'm an evil BI***"

Today....I mentioned that I badly need a haircut. She started in about "how can you afford a haircut when you can barely make your rent. So, you will look good when you live in the woods?" I told her I didn't want talk about it and she immediately wanted to hang up on me.

I am working at a job that I HATE until I can find a different job, so
I AM waiting on several companies' decisions (from interviews I have had in the past week.
I am SERIOUSLY STRESSED.
I DO NOT NEED THIS

She calls me ten times a day. I can't take her. I am very agitated and angry. And I have to go spend 8 hours at a job that I HATE.

help
LoddyAoddylo
LoddyAoddylo
I'm here,sorry to hear you're having such a bad time {HUG}
SensitiveHoboLady
SensitiveHoboLady
Oh TC, I'm sorry your mom is just so downright mean and nasty. I know she's your mom, but enough is enough! Putting up a boundary sounds really needed right now. Maybe for starters just limit things to one phone call a day. Can you tell her you need some space to focus on all the things you're working hard on and that the constant criticism makes things so much harder? She may not be a listener but calling ten times a day to complain is too much for anyone to be able to handle!

Sending you (((hugs))) and good positive thoughts.
sadiegirl13
sadiegirl13
Can you just not answer when she calls? She is such a source of suffering for you. I'm sorry that is the case, bc no one should make us feel like that. big hugs for you!
JennS
JennS
Sadie is right, you should stop speaking to her until she learns be nice. You don't a toxic person constantly needling you. Big hugs.
spacekat
spacekat
Yeah - is there anyway to block her calls? She can always get through in the event of an emergency. You do NOT need that.
MoobbusT
MoobbusT
It sounds to me like your mum could use a doctors visit for some mood meds TC. I too am very sorry you have to go through this, I think it would probably be too much for me and I wouldn't know what to do either.

Limiting contact a bit sounds sensible, at least to try. But maybe thats not practical. Best wishes.
MayB
MayB
I'm sorry TC....

I'm praying for you....I know it's your mother but maybe you could not answer and get the message later...

((((Hugs)))))
TC40
TC40
I was on my way to my shit job today and she called me twice in five minutes
BabyShelby
BabyShelby
Hi TC~~
I'm sending best wishes that one of your other job prospects comes through. And encouragement to stop answering your mom's calls. Be strong and advocate for yourself!
theatrediva
theatrediva
Block your mom like the others said TC. Block the negativity and toxic womments she throws at you. You want a deserve better things in your life and you will not be able to pursue them with her holding you back. BLOCK HER. Hugs.
dizzynini
dizzynini
Dealing with a difficult mother is so hard...I know because my mother can be hard to deal with sometimes. I think she's undiagnosed bipolar/BPD herself.
We just have to keep our distance and grit our teeth when we do talk to them. Big hugs.
Butterfly85
Butterfly85
Praying..gentle hugs.
bluemood82
bluemood82
Your mother sounds toxic. Stay away from her. I know I would.
cherylmcgr
cherylmcgr
hugs to you.
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