I have been in a similar position when I was younger with my mom before she got her life together. It is so hard going through that and very frustrating. It is good you are venting about it. I understand the being treated like a slave. The worst moment for me was when I had my first son I had a C-Section and was supposed to be on 8 weeks bed rest. I was miserable and in so much pain. The first night home my mom pouted and threw a tantrum wanting me to make her dinner and bring it to her upstairs ( when I was supposed to avoid stairs) and I did it to avoid a fight. She would not bring my baby bassinet down from upstairs to help me either and I had to bring that by myself too. She spent the rest of the week guilt tripping me and bullying me into keeping up her house and cleaning every inch. I can relate to the part you said when not continuing to take care would result in massive fights. I wish I had more to say to comfort you during this but, I hope it helps knowing that you and many others are going through this or have experienced this and been able to get out of a situation like yours that seemed impossible in every single way. You do not deserve to be treated like that. I am rooting for you.

I'm very sorry you went through that, Dove. May things be going better for you now. Big hugs.

They are much better now. I really thought that situation would last forever. Like there was no way but, life is unexpected and much better compared to then. I now just have that as a pet peeve when people act like that.

It's a situation that traps us in serving others. I have felt that way many times. People seem so lazy around me and don't have any consideration. Sometimes I think it would be a good idea to speak up. But It would be turned around against me. All we can do is try. for our self. Good luck.

"neck stumps" BWAHAHAHA

Yeah, I think someone is breeding idiots on purpose these days!! wth??!!

I grew up in a neighborhood of cretinous boys. Ugh. It took me a while but I learned to stand up for myself, stand my ground, and not be taken advantage of. I think I was able to see the manipulation and felt really offended by it. Because it is so offensive to me to use people, others who do really tick me off. I tend to call them out on it. Maybe that makes me kind of an ass, but I'm okay with that then. lol I get to keep my self-respect.

Our actions 'teach' others what we will or won't do....
our actions 'teach' others how far they can push us...our actions or in-action creates within us our own self image.

Jenn, it's time you Spoke Your Truth, Create Boundaries of what you will and will not accept from your son and his grand mother.

Until then nothing will change. Hugs

^ Very well said. :D

I would speak my truth but then I would get kicked out of the apartment. I don't want to be homeless.

I'm still working on get a place of my own.

Thank you, everyone.

That's such a hard spot to be in then. Sorry. Been homeless - do not recommend. lol

Do you have a punching bag, friend with work out equipment or creative outlet that you can use to blow off steam? Writing or symbolically sketching out what is rankling or hurting me has let me purge myself at times.

Keep your focus on that goal, jennifer. You can do it!

^ If I could "Like" that comment ... :D

Agree, keep your focus on the goal of apt....be the squeaky wheel and keep bugging them. I'm Sure son/grand mother know they ;push your buttons,

If you feel like you are being abused/used, just go to your room and close the door, with a do not disturb sign on it....they'll get the message.... don't bother me.

I dunno if this would work for you, but I once looked at hubs like I might stab him, I guess, and said, "Stop. Talking." Almost laughed cuz .... HE DID!!! lololol I was totally surprised.

thank you guys.

How are you feeling today, chicklette? Even if 'things' aren't better, I hope you're feeling a bit more positive about your future. All this will pass. :)