Bipolar Disorder Support Group

Bipolar disorder is not just a single disorder, but a category of mood disorders marked by periods of abnormally high energy and euphoria, often accompanied by bouts of clinical depression. This is the place to talk about your experience with bipolar disorder, learn from others' experiences, and find support.

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HannaHana 10/05/2009

No, I'm not...BUT....

If I were my fiance would want me to "let him know so he can leave b/c he'd rather live all alone for the rest of his life than be with someone who is suicidal"

I said with sarcasm "real supportive", and he said "I'm serious, no thank you, I won't deal with that!"

Is it just me, or is my fiance sounding more and more like an a-hole every time I post?

deleted_user 10/05/2009

I also agree with lostin... too a supportive mate is a definite need for us... maybe time will help him understand and if it doesn't you will have to choose what is best for "you"...

I wish you luck in whatever your decision is.. Hugs

deleted_user 10/05/2009

Oh Amanda, you could put what I know in a thimble and still have room to pour a cup of water in it...................... I know very little of such things as Love and Relationships.

I would like to think if someone said something like Hanna shared w/ her fiance that I would take the person in my arms and hold them, maybe whisper, "I am terrified for you, for me, for our children," But again, what the hell do I know?

KimChick 10/05/2009

HannaHana ~

I'm just being totally honest here..........after all I've seen you post about him, I honestly think you can do better. You're a caring, smart, beautiful woman who deserves someone who will love you back whole-heartedly for WHO YOU ARE........Is he really the one?

(Hugs)

deleted_user 10/05/2009

... but, you have been together how many years Hanna? Is it three?

If you take a global view of your relationship during that time, has your bf been supportive of you?... and you of him?

deleted_user 10/05/2009

I guess I can see the argument that some here are making for talking to him again about this issue. Just in case he reacted rashly or was closed off to the idea at first, but then after some time has passed, he's had time to process it and let it in. But if you talk to him again and get the same response, I don't see how you proceed and move forward with the relationship. "In sickness and in health" He's saying he's only going to take the health, the good part. You can't live like that.

HannaHana 10/05/2009

Thank you all for the replies.

I've been with this man for 3 1/2 years. He's seen me from my highest mania to my deepest, darkest depression. Suicidal even (although he didn't actually know that). He cares so much for me that he will call doctors just to find help for me and he does hold me in his arms when I'm down and tells me it will be alright.

I don't want to make him out to be a complete monster, b/c he's not. Obviously, I wouldn't even give lifetime together a thought if that were the case. The biggest problem is that he looks at the whole big picture but doesn't pay attention to the tiny details that make up that future. He doesn't look at the fact that I take things day by day b/c he's picturing how things "should" be 20 years from now.

I've never put it into that perspective before, and maybe I need to do that with him. I don't like how the conversation went down at all, but I will try talking to him again, however futile that may be.

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