Would it be wrong to ask wife for booty call? In and out and no talking. Kissing optional

I thought you said she was abusive?

Yeah. Right now I just want to fggghh

You need to ask your wife on the last one, BSB. All women are nowhere near to be created equal in that arena. Me this hour is not even equal to me last hour on that score.

Distraction helps me ignore temptation when I know I am being tempted down destructive paths. Resist temptation?? I can resist anything BUT temptation. Studied ignorance is the best I can do. Ideally my distraction is something less destructive that I has tempted me but I never got around to for whatever reason.

Continued support while you find what works for you, BSB. Maybe some shadow boxing?

Bro...

I'm in almost THE SAME BOAT!!!

I'm bipolar, and recently rededicated my life to Christ about a week ago, but this time I really am trying to live right. See, even if God didn't exist, you could still trust true Christians with your baby and not have a worry in your mind. It's because the things of God are the things that build us up, while the things we know don't, don't! Like alcohol, random sex, all that.

I'd say that you should watch out for that ex wife of yours. I was in a bad relationship and honestly, I was JUST texting her, but I moved out of state almost right after graduation because I knew that my strength when it came to her was weak, and I now live in another state but still text her to entertain the idea every now and again, thanks God I moved.

Imagine if I got her pregnant, and then I was in a relationship that just tore me down?! I'd hate myself for missing out on real love.

My bipolar I think kicks up that strong desire to have sex, and for me, the drinking is not so hard, so I haven't done that. But I haven't even masturbated lately out of strength, probably from the Holy Spirit.

Hit me up if you ever need to talk or anything, I can even send you my celly brotha I gotchu mayne.

Honestly, I heard of these guys online who actually challenge themselves to not masturbate for a week, basically 7 days. The reason? Because Testosterone shoots up by 45% if you don't ejaculate for a whole week! Isn't that something!

So you want to feel more like a man, feel more confident, strong, and all around beastly, don't touch that peepee!!!

you can do this man, and like it says in Ecclesiastes, Friends lift one another up as iron sharpens iron, so don't go it alone, find people who are like you and understand your battles who have a real heart to hear your issues and care.

Yeah. Well. Here's what happened. I did slap it around, three times in under an hour. Still not sated.
I then asked a friend that knows us both. She said I could try to ask wife if I felt confident in my feelings.
I asked wife anyway (no confidence in really anything) "would you be open to a booty call?" The reply was yes but right now female problems, because of diabetes meds and stress. She'll let me know when that clears up. Maybe that was a sign that it's not supposed to happen. Pregnancy isn't possible. She's fixed and past that age.
I then took things into an eeeeeppp point. I invited her to use a free guest pass to yoga on Monday. It's with an instructor that incorporates spirit with mind and body into the routine.
Now the kicker that's really a huge eeeeeppp! We're meeting there on our anniversary. Freaking out!
But the good part of this is an opportunity for each of us to see the other in a good place, not a real date or any pressure. Yoga is my church. Not in a church, but IS my church. I leave yoga feeling like I hope people feel leaving their churches.
This is very much like asking someone to Sunday school for the crispies out there

If only I didn't have such anxiety I'd be such a whore. Yup. I get what you mean. But I'm indulging in self pleasuring. Not in excess. Be strong and stay mindful

If I weren't married I'd be all over it everywhere. But I really never have been. I've only had sex with people I loved. That gives me a count of 3 and a half. Half was a near finished handy before we got caught by her younger sister when she came in from school. It was funny tho, she just stood there and said "well, go on. Get it done" so matter of fact. I just put it away at that point

That's funny! I probably would have gasped and shut the door with an apology. I don't know how the man-thing works compared to the woman-thing, but I used to give myself a rub-down only when I got so tormented the fire wouldn't die down. But that is marred with abuse and shame by my dear mother and others in my family, so I would probably behave differently without the interferences. I'm not into casual sex, either, so I would hope that I wouldn't be running around wild, but who knows. I do like having sex!! Oh, yeah, and to address your address your original comment, doing something positive to help counteract the negative might be helpful. Your brain has a tough time thinking both at the same time. Exercise helps too, supposedly. I think it would probably be difficult to drink while exercising, but something that makes it difficult might work!

Why would you want a booty call with a woman that abuses you? Mixed message.... Are you planning on getting back together ? Personally I wouldn't want to be that close to an ex....((hugs )) polar

I really don't know what's going on right now. It didn't happen for other reasons, not because I didn't ask. I'm nothing but mixed messages even to myself right now. I rubbed three or before I even asked and might find a few more in there later