v, I understand you wanting to isolate the situation but it only makes things worse for you. You need the support of your family and friends. BP or not, he has not right to loose control to the point of physically abusing you. If he cannot stop himself with you, there is no guarantee that he will control himself with the children at some point. He needs help, you need help. Is he medicated? If so,it sounds like he needs a med adjustment and therapy to learn coping skills.

Don't let this go, it wont just go away. If it happened this time, it can happen again. Please think of your children if you cannot think of yourself. xo

Sweetie, it also might help if you address this in the "Family and Friends of Bipolar" group where they can share with you what they have done that works for them.....xo
http://www.dailystrength.org/c/Family-and-Friends-of-Bipolar/support-group

Yeah hes on Abilify right now. It typically does well but he may need adjustment. I agree he needs therapy badly.. I don't know if I can take these moods anymore but I love him, I am afraid if I left for a while (to go visit my moms or something temporarily) he might hurt himself.

I always said no way if my guy hits me I am so done.. wont be my life.. yet here years later my "Prince" is going nuts and hitting me. I've never cheated on him or hit him so it hurts for this to happen. Dang I am just so lost here...

Thanks Shelly4.. I posted there as well. This site has everything thankfully.

They make this combo of tear gas and mace in little keyring cannisters and they sell them at like gun shops and stuff....or you could get a tazer

Bipolar or not - there is no excuse for this behavior at all. I am never and have never been abusive even before meds. Sounds like someone needs some anger management. This is not a facet of Bipolar disorder - he should not be blaming bipolar for abusive behavior.

I think you need to leave, even just for some time. You need to take care of your children and if he gets mad enough to hit you, he could get mad enough and hit the children. Maybe just tell him you think he needs some serious help and that you'll help him get it, but you need to get away for a little while. It's never OK for anyone to physically hurt you or your children. I was with a guy for quite some time that suffered from depression and would hurt me, it started out small, but after a while he was choking me and punching me in the face and he'd just blame his depression, that he couldn't control himself. I'd believe it and stay with him, but it only got worse.

Hope everything works out for you.

Try to encourage him to get immediate help sweetie. Abilify "can" cause agitation and dysphoria along with excessive anxiety. It did for me after several months of taking it.

Can you talk him into calling his pdoc now? If his behavior continue, you will have to call the police for you and your children's safelty. It is also for his own safety. xo

Thanks I think that is wise..

I can't take Abilify because it causes me agitation. Perhaps a total med change. I believe it would be beneficial for you get out for a while. Either that or him go to the hospital. He is obviously a danger to others. If you called the police, they would make him go to the hospital.

you get the hell away from him. you don't deserve it. I'm so sorry you are going thru this.

abilify can have side effects of extreme agitation. additionally, if it's not working, mania can edge into psychosis - i'm not wanting to scare you, maybe just help you understand what everyone else is saying - his behavior is NOT OK. clearly he needs some kind of srronger intervention - but, as above, i STRINGLY encourage you to focus on your immediate safety needs, and, of course, the childrens. once the taboo of hitting another person is broken, there's no telling what may happen, without signif intervention. if $$ is a problem, there is most likely a women's shelter you can either spend some time at, and/or find out what resources are available to you.

hitting is not OK. it's just NOT, there is no excuse. take care of yourself and your kids. i'm so sorry to hear that you are living in such (justifiable) fear.

bipolar is no excuse for that. do what you can to get him to help himself, but in the end if he is abusive he is abusive and your better off without.

I'm sorry this happened to you. I was an abused woman for years, and I was the bipolar one. I would phone the police and have him arrested. Then he would be forced to get anger management counseling, and you could have some time to recover.

This is not about bipolar at all. It is about abuse. There is also an physical and emotional abuse forum. You might want to talk to the people there.

Please call the police. I let my husband hit me hard, I didn't know the police could arrest him, and it would stop. my husband had never touched me the first 5 years of our marriage. It took 10 more years of physcial abuse before I finally called the police. They arrested him, but he was nice, and I took him back. It took another 10 years before the nightmare ended. We are together again, because I took a group course on abuse, and learned how to end the cycle of abuse. I'm sorry, this will just keep going, if you don't stop it now.

It is called the cycle of abuse. It is not YOUR fault. You did not have a "poor choice of words." That is always what the abuser says. Please get help. This is not good for your children. They are abused by witnessing or hearing this kind of abuse. Like I said, it is not about bipolar. I have never hit anyone or hurt anyone in my life. It is a control issue. Not medication either. Sorry to be so blunt.