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The same little girl that heard my son ask why the Batman costume had nipples on it and told the teacher he said "tit's" getting him suspended from all field trips under the public schools no tolerance policy accused him yesterday of calling her a "negro" when he said "Oh Nibbletts" a phrase he uses often in frustration. He has been suspended again and I am going to the school board. She called him the "white boy" when he is obviously Caucasian.
I have a French American friend of dark skin color who takes offense to being called an African American when his family is multiple generation french as many from the New Orleans and Louisiana area are. Other than American I don't want my son referred to as any thing other than Caucasian now Espically when the years I lived in the south Negro was the preferred term to be used.
Of course this school also has a bus with a sign in the window that states "Black" and no Caucasian children ride on it. (for routing purposes I know)
Am I taking "No tolerance" too far as well.
I have a French American friend of dark skin color who takes offense to being called an African American when his family is multiple generation french as many from the New Orleans and Louisiana area are. Other than American I don't want my son referred to as any thing other than Caucasian now Espically when the years I lived in the south Negro was the preferred term to be used.
Of course this school also has a bus with a sign in the window that states "Black" and no Caucasian children ride on it. (for routing purposes I know)
Am I taking "No tolerance" too far as well.
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I find myself going places in the car and not wanting to get out of the car. I come back home and I don't want to get out of the car. I think it's the only time I spend reflecting. Chronic tiredness from Long Covid plus the immunosupressing meds for my Crohn's is slowing me down but everything just seems a massive effort. I am dealing with the paperwork following my father's death but it's not...
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Wow, it's the middle of the week already!Today is our 11 year anniversary, so we're going out to a nice dinner. I'm losing a lot of sleep these days, hence a wonky schedule and uncomfortable feelings. But I know it will pass, eventually.I hope all of you have a peaceful day, and may good things come your way!
Back to the subject..it hard to say if you are outside the culture like I am. Even in the UK some places may be much more uptight than around here.
My own view is if your son said "nibblets" then that is the thing to explain to the school, ie he didn't say anything offensive..unless nibbletts means something.
I would keep out of the whole race thing or saying the girl called him "white boy" (which in the UK would be regarded as an ok thing to say (as I say cultures are different).
And it's not a free country. Not the US, UK or anywhere else. The very thing we are discussing indicates it is not.
I've never quite understood why the US talks about free speech when it is clearly not something that is allowed. Sometimes that is desirable, as in incitement to racial hatred (a crime here), holocaust denial (a crime in Germany, Austria)..but even then people will debate it either from a philisophical perspective (anyone should be able to say anything but then accept the consequesnces) or a political perspective (ie they want to say those things)
But seriously there are a diversity of opinions here on Bipolar, people from different countries (as I said we may be slightly different over here in the UK), different races certainly, definately different creeds and politics and I suppose one of the good things from that is that you can ask people and get a broad spectrum of responses. Just a bit of a side benefit really.
Perhaps you might consider giving things a bit more time?
When I taught and a kid said colored or Negro, I would tell them it is best to say what I said above. They weren't punished, just informed.
Your French American is one of the exceptions. There are exceptions, not everyone considers themself an African American. I think African American was used as a way to claim roots from where our ancestors originated from.
I'm not sure when you lived in the south, but Negro hasn't been the preferred term from people of African descent for a long time, I'd say since my childhood. You may have thought it was accepted because the people around you called us Negros. Just a thought.
I believe a few years back a US PC term was "people of color"..at the same time "coloureds" was an old fashioned and offensive term in the UK. I always thought "color/colour" was a weird term because I thought everyone was coloured.
So personally I try and keep off generic terms, I sometimes use nationality or ethnic group but other terms are different in different countries and at different times.
My sure fire get out is..to call the person by their name. Works everytime :)
Whites, called me names.
Blacks, called me names.
I can't really say one hurt more than the other.
White girls told me to stay away from their men.
Black girls told me to stay away from their men.
I'm with Acuriousfish on this one. A person's name is always the best way to go.
http://www.urbandictionary.com/define.php?term=nibblet
nibblet
a fuzzy ball shaped animal. They hide in dark places in your house and occasionally sneak out to steel food.
They are the father of the nibblet family.
nibblet
Derived from the Green Giant brand of corn Nibblets.
Something granular of a whole.
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A tidbit The cliff hanger gave but a nibblet of what was to come.
Nibblet
A person doing something silly, or stupid.
He fell over drunk, what a nibblet.