sure they do. But so do We, sometimes. It's human nature to Forget how it feels to be in a bad place when We're not.

Only Best friends - and even then, not every time - can Know you well enough to know when to empathize, when to encourage, and when to just shut up and listen.

*hugs* :/

First of all , sorry you feel so bad . Some people do try t fix things.I had a Bf like that. I think though it was because if he did not do that he would have felt helpless( which he would not have been able to handle). Also some people just don't know how to be supportive and honestly think they are helping . My BF used to say he was giving me back perspective !!! ( yeah right). Can you talk to this friend and some point and tell what you need ??? ( and what you dont )

All the normies I know do this

I think she just wants to help you but not helping that way. Here:
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=a9XlWDKqBys
Red Hot Chili Peppers My Friends Live David Letterman

This IS my best friend I'm talking about. She admits that she doesn't understand BP, but after all the years of hearing me, she should know better than to tell me that I have no reason to be depressed. I don't need a freaking reason...I have BP!!!! I can't help it, and when it seems to be raining shit on me I can't help the feelings I have from that.

(okay, see, I'm hypomanic right now. This is the time when I'd say something like, 'shoot her! Bury her in the back yard, and get a New best friend') (but that's not the right answer, and I know it)

I wish I could do more, but I know you have a right to feel bad, with everything you have to deal with. Really, most people would have to Be in your shoes to realize what you need. I'm sorry she was not more supportive in the right way. :(

I find it hard to believe that they would try to talk you out of being depressed about that stuff!!!!! I mean, that's some really damn depressing problems!!!!!
Do you think that they believe that you are delusional about these problems and that they can 'set you straight' about them?
I'm sorry that you weren't able to feel heard. And I'm sorry that you are having these problems, especially with your son. I hope that he can get some help!!! (((((Hugs)))))
I can't believe that EVERY normie would be that dense and/or uncaring.

Hanna, she doesnt know how you feel because she has never felt it the way you do. She only does what she knows how to do and that is rationalize the depression. Sometimes it is good to have people like that in our life as they give us a reality check. We can become so obsorbed in our depression that we lose sight of anything good.

Heck, I find myself doing that with my son who has BP. The thing I hate is when others say "there is NO reason to feel the way I do". They dont get that it is chemical and not situational. Even when it is situational, it effects us in such a different way, deeper, more emotionally, and it shuts us down.

Hang in there with her and try to "understand" her and where she is coming from too. Not now but maybe later when you can. Also, tell her how it makes you feel when she does that while you are feeling depressed. The only way she can ever relate is if you are open with her and you may have to be many times before she gets it....xo

I have no idea if all saners do that, I don't really know any.

It is good to hang around with the normies they keep us in check most of the time. She's probably impatient. I have burned bridges with people because they got impatient with me not answering the phone and giving them an explanation. Don't lose her. Ask her to give you some time to get back in gear and thank her for her effort.

Not everyone assumes they can fix something. Especially in one phone call.

Youve seemed to run into someone that really doesnt understand depression. A lot of people who have never experienced it, think it just means "extra sad" which simply isnt the case it goes so much deeper than that. But it is out of their experience range. I think also what really makes the difference is how open they keep their minds. If someone is open to understanding then well you can teach them what it means. But if they already think they know it. Forget it.

Thats with everyone though even us mental health patients.

That doesnt mean there arent others who DO understand. You just seem to have run into one of the ones who dont.

" I think they do. But as a return I spend time telling them how they couldn't imagine how I was feeling. But then I have few friends now.So I don't worry about it much".

Yes-- My hubby tries to fix it all the time. Sometimes I really like the fact that he cares in his own special way. Other times I tell him that I can't help that I am anxious and can't sleep. He even suggests for me things to do when I can't sleep and he can. Can you believe that?

My mom does this. Whenever I am depressed she wants to minimize it and/or fix it....drives me to the brink.

When my good friends do this "for" me I just say uh huh uh huh and go into "lets make YOU feel better" mode so I can get them off my back and off my cell.

HannaHanna I am sorry you are feeling "poorly". Either way it is nice to "see" you.

Huggerinos to you - AF