I've seen up close and personal. I don't think we're doomed, but the ride is gonna be bumpier and harder imo. Maybe near impossible? Which is why the stat is so high? As if, it isn't hard enough. That's my two cents.

Fiddle dee dee!!!!!!

Even if that statistic is right (and that's a pretty big 'if'), SOMEONE is going to be in that 5% part!!!!!!
Why not YOU guys!!!!?

Don't borrow trouble!!!!
You have an awesome marriage!!!
Keep doing what you're doing and you'll be fine!!!

Continued good luck to you both!!!!

(((((Hugs)))))

Excuse me - fuck stupid statistics someone is either trying to impress, cause fear - and usually got paid for such bullshit!

To all our married members - 10, 20, 30 years - were you surveyed?
Who'd they survey, the jail? The lock down unit?

don't believe hype! Two people have to work and accept, in 2014 - most westerners believe that - is a world issue, not bipolar : )
My two cents and nobody paid me! LOL

I've read several reports on bipolar and marriages.

Each had a different stat on success or failures.

I think it's a matter of individuals who make a commitment , for better or for worse .In sickness and in health

Although I would prefer the "richer" part

No, you're not doomed for failure.

And. It's Friday...so love that husband up this weekend!!

Xx,
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"But the statistics for marriages involving a person who has bipolar disorder are especially soberingan estimated 90 percent of these end in divorce, according to a November 2003 article, Managing Bipolar Disorder, in Psychology Today."

My therapist bumped the # up a little.

I like all of your answers waaaaay better! I think I'll choose to be in the 10%.

I've been married for almost 16 years if you count the 2 year's we took "off" when we divorced in the middle. I married the same man twice (he's awesome), so what stat category is that? Not categorized. Figures. LOL

by the sounds of it, you are in that `10% club' hehe...and that's awesome!!! my advise is to ignore stats, because they can put worms in your brain and become self-fulfilling prophesy.

my take on it is that probably only 10% of all marriages are successful long-term, mental health issues or not.

50% end in divorce

40% stay together for some reason, but can't stand each other. maybe it's dogma or financial or for the kids...but it is anything but successful.

I think this is a myth.

I remember seeing something saying that the divorce rate for people with bipolar is three times as much for the normal population. The normal rate is 50%.

Therefore the divorce rate for bipolars is 150%.

basically you are being divorced by people you haven't even met yet!

I chased down the source of this once and after a "a study said.." I finally got to the source. It basically said it was the depression, not bipolar that increased the chances of marital breakdown and that the rates of bipolar marital breakdown was similar to those with unipolar depression.

Basically the real truth is that 43% of all stats are made up by lazy journalists with an addition 12.3% by people wanting to sell you a book or some kind of self help programme.

Well, three of my marriages ended in divorce. My 4th marriage is going strong (5 years so far).
Why dwell on the divorce rate? It serves no purpose.

I am with Gina..........who the heck did these studies and who did they include? Most of us with BP have secondary diagnosis. Don't base your "odds" of longevity in your marriage on a statistic. If you love each other, work with each other, communicate, and remember that the marriage is about you/him and not the BP, you will have a better advantage over other people deciding for you if you will make it or not.

I have several friend with BP married to loving spouses that have been married for over 20 years. Does that mean they will last forever? No guarantee!!! But, it obviously means "something" is working!!!

I have been married for 30 years this month. We have had to work very hard in communicating, understanding, but our love for each other always won over. We have four sons, two of which have BP, very difficult to deal with as they also have addiction issues. Even with those challenges, my husband and I have stayed strong. I have to say though that he is an angel, very patient and understanding. But, I also realized that this is my disorder and I had to do everything in my power to work with it and know myself well.

You hang on to the positive and don't let statistics dictate where your relationship should be. xo

WOW Shelly4 30 years!
Congratulations to you and hubby!!

Thanks Dobie, I still have a difficult time realizing/accepting it is THIRTY years. But, when I look at my oldest who will be 30, it assures me it is REAL!!!! We actually met on a blind date that was set up by an X boyfriend...............What are the odds?

That's is so cute. A blind date that worked out! Yipppeeeee!

I met Jason on hetr. For 13 years I said I never wanted to be married again or even in a relationship. But we hit it off so well on the Boards and Hugs..we decided to call each other. We had everything in common! Five months later I flew out to meet him.
And the rest is history (as "Ode to Joy" plays in the background)

I have been married 33 years. But anything worth having takes a little work.