I think understanding is really important. I don't know about most important, but it's up there.

Personally though, I do not believe in unconditional love or should I say I don't believe it's healthy really. What if they hit you? Unconditional love dictates that you stay with them. I just don't buy into that.

The ability to have total honesty and trust between the two of you. That and being best friends. Oh, and allowing one another to retain some autonomy.

Just pick one sam!

Hypnoman I am a Gemini. We can never make up our minds.

Loving each other for who they are not who you can make them into. I'm not a lump of clay you can shape into what you want. If you do not want me for the real me then you need to leave.

This stands true for lovers, spouses, friends and family to me.

Wow this is a tough one.

Unconditional love isn't healthy in my opinion. It may sound wonderful and even romantic but it's not. Love is something that should be given after it's been earned. And then both people need to continue to nurture it for it to truly work. Handing love over to someone else regardless of their actions is asking for heartbreak. Forgiveness is a good trait but if taken to far can lead to the same problem. Continuing to forgive inexcusable actions isn't healthy. Having the ability to be compassionate and forgive is a good thing if it isn't taken to an unhealthy extreme though.

I think trust and honesty are the two most important ones. If you don't have any trust in the other person, in any kind of relationship, it won't last. And honesty is a big one too, if there isn't honesty then there can't be trust.

Communication

i agree with the people who say unconditional love. Wouldn't that be awesome. Someone to love me no matter what condition I am in.

I believe my hubby loves me unconditionally. I always love him too, but sometimes how I feel about someone is subject to the way they make me feel about myself. Make sense? Is that narcissistic?

No, that makes complete sense. I guess maybe unconditional love from the people closest to me. I mean realy unconditional love is almost impossible.

just love..then there is trust.. forgiveness.. I guess I think there is a lot in the package..x

Money. If they're not rich, why bother.

She has to be able to cook

Working together towards common goals.

I consider the love I have for my children unconditional. There is nothing they could do or say that would make me not love them anymore. I understand what some are saying that it could be considered unhealthy. I didn't mean to make it confusing. Sorry guys if I wasn't clear.