If something doesn't get done about people getting angry at others and saying mean things when they hurt a friend....I'm going to keep bringing up the mean things that they say--until someone moderates this board

Honey,
If you are really steamed, talk to Doug about it.

Yes, i noticed when you first joined , you were positive , supportive and seemed happy to have found this site. I noticed right away how "some" starting jumping about your trying to be cheerful and mocking you. I noticed, because im familiar with them. I can see you are struggling to keep afloat. Im sorry there are some on here who feel they can do that and it makes them feel so proud. Maybe it will stop........ take care

someone told me that talking to doug isn't going to make it stop

when i get fed up with anything from the board, I TAKE A BREAK because it really does no more good to stir up more trouble. this is what "I" do and it works for me.

I think it is a shame that it takes steps like this to acheive civility. Worse, when you ask people to mind their behavior, they call you names...so let's change the name of this threat to "Please suggest a support site that actually is a support site"

I HAVE RECIEVED MORE SUPPORT FROM THIS SITE THAN I HAVE IN MY '''''WHOLE ENTIRE LIFE'''' maybe those who do not find the support they need should go elsewhere rather than trying to take it away from those of us who thrive on it.

On 05/17/07, 06:26pm BipolarPrincess wrote:
insensitve? I think I've written a lot of sensitive things on my journal....if you are blind and think I am insensitive I suggest you read my journal and see some of the poetry I wrote.

sweetie nobody is calling anyone "insensitive" here. all "I" was suggesting is that when you get fed up with the boards, take a break like i do. i also said that there is support here and if someone does not feel they find support here, maybe another site is better for that person. it is hurting some of us who really do get support when it is said that this place needs to be changed. it is just not up to us to regulate this board. there ARE people who do that so we can be here and i believe we should respect them and leave them to their job.

this is how I meant to put it:


On 05/17/07, 06:33pm CuppaJoe wrote:
YOU STUPID INSENSITIVE LITTLE TWIT!

You are an embarassment to everyone in this group who tries to help others! We are trying to help a girl who was just sexually assaulted not too long ago and you breeze in to her thread and cock off about how WONDERFUL you are! and complain when people tell you you are out of line? Good Lord where is your compassion or humanity?

Sensitive things in a journal is narcissistic and a waste of time if that's all you do. True sensitivity comes from being able to make a connection with OTHERS and share joy, sorrow, anger, peace, hope, and hopelessness.....even across an internet connection.


Please go back to your journal you like twit. You're not needed nor wanted here!

Joe

On 05/17/07, 06:26pm BipolarPrincess wrote:
insensitve? I think I've written a lot of sensitive things on my journal....if you are blind and think I am insensitive I suggest you read my journal and see some of the poetry I wrote.

I'm not saying I want to be the moderator--
I'm not saying that I don't want to help JB

I'm saying that I think this site needs to be moderated more--

I'm not trying to hurt anyone's feelings....

I'm just showing what I think needs to be changed....change is good right?

I think this entire site--needs to be moderated more than it is--and every time I try to connact the founder--the one time I was told that swearing was something that wasn't allowed.....If the founders aren't going to do anything about people abusing others on their site--then what good is the site doing? and what should happen next....I want to be nice--I want to be positive...I want this site to change....but if that's what I get when showing someone something inspiring--and they say that--what good is it doing showing someone something inspiring

Im with JG on this one...

I guess when we're all BP, or depressed, etc. feelings get hurt, anger comes out, and can be very misinterpreted, and that wasn't nice of Joe to say, but we've all said things that aren't nice. If it was that horrible, that probably means you should just stay away from him and talk amongst the friends that DO understand you and comfort you. But i don't think you'll get support by "televising" it on the boards....

i agree with JG. it's the nature of the beast here. the bipolar bear! LOL! if you really do get fed up and can't handle it then maybe you should take a break, those of us who have been here for a while have all done that. i hope it get's better for you soon. this is a magical site..........

this is what i did when i recieved a message similar from someone who had a problem with me:

I SENT A PRIVATE MESSAGE BACK WITH MY OWN THOUGHTS.
SHE SENT ANOTHER PRIVATE MESSAGE BACK WITH MORE OF HER THOUGHTS.
THEN I SENT ANOTHER PRIVATE MESSAGE BACK TO HER WITH MORE OF MY THOUGHTS...

this is what happened because of our actions:

WE WORKED OUR DIFFERENCES OUT.
WE BOTH WALKED AWAY WITHOUT HARMING EACHOTHER OR ANYONE ELSE ON THE BOARDS.
THERE WASN'T A SINGLE OTHER PERSON CAUGHT IN THE CROSSFIRE.

BipolarPrincess -- If I may - We've only met in the last couple of days, initially you were very positive and seemed very upbeat and helpful. Before long though you began to get a bit "abrasive". I felt your intentions were good and well meant, but you are young and have much to learn about "polishing" the edges. I even shared that with you in a private message.

Then, tonight you've shown a different side and you have been a bit discorteous. I'm sorry for being so brutally honest but, it is true. There is no point in me sending this to you in a private message as it might make it's way to the board anyway so, here it is.

I still think you can rectify this. Just stay, be helpful, ask for help when needed, but return to the helpful and friendly young woman I first spoke with. This board IS big enough for everyone.