((((hugs)))) You definitely do need and deserve them.

(((((HUGS)))))

Yes you do need them, and deserve them. I hope today gets better for you.

*hugs hugs*
i get this all the time from my husband and our kids its very frustrating and extremly annoying, they are suppossed to stick by you not contridict you,
my husband let my son out after he was told he wasnt allowed untill he'd mowed the lawn,(as a punishment) he let him out as soon as i stepped out the door and mowed the lawn himself. sometimes i wounder if its really him thats making me crazy!!

That would make me mad too Princess.......(((((Hugs)))))

He wasn't even home he was working......I don't understand why he'd over rule me if he's not gonna be around to watch them like I am.........

If my daughter lied and indeed he didn't over rule me she's going to be grounded with no friends over for a week....

My husband does the same thing. I'll tell the boys they can only ride their bikes and dirt bikes in the circle in front of our house. (My five yo corrected me and said it is actually an oval.) I'll go outside and the kids are riding so far down the road I can't see them.

He does other things like that too.

That is one of those things we have to hammer out with our spouses.

I know you are hurt. It would be great though if you could find a way to get the point across without the children or child involved.

I understand why you don't want to watch the kids if he overrules you. Finding a baby sitter maybe a good idea to get the point across.

Hopefully he will wake up to his wrong doing without the children realizing anything is going on.

Depending how we are feeling, I think it's good for us to have a babysitter sometimes anyway. I love my children more than anyone else on the planet. When I'm having a mental moment and the kids are suppose to be with me alone, I could use help. I call it giving my five year old a buddy.

Good luck in sorting the overruling out. I've been working with my husband on this for thirteen years. When I mention it, he just gives me a blank face.

Oh one thing I forgot. When I point it out to him he says to the kids, mom said you can only do blank. Thanks hun for making me the bad guy in my kids eyes.

Hugs and luck to you.
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Correction....his daughter......my step daughter.....

I wouldn't LIKE doing this, but I think if nothing else got through, I would just force myself to BE the child that he apparently thought I was. When asked by the kids if they can do something, I would never let myself answer. I would go ask him. EVERY time. I wouldn't send the kids to ask him, either, because that would be a thing that a grown up does---sending kids to ask their dad. If asked what we should have for supper, I wouldn't know. I'm not grownup enough for that. Watching the kids? Hell no. Can't do that, I'm not the grownup here. There's only one of those around.

I would push it all the way. Boy, I can really commit when I'm of a mind to on something like this. I can just imagine how long it would take for him to be totally sick of literally being the ONLY adult in the vicinity.

Princess if he was at work, then he should not be a part of the decision making at home with respect to the kids... he should leave the decisions re the kids up to you unless you contact him for discussion... if he wants to stay home and you work, then he could have this right.... its not fair for him to contradict what you are doing when he isn't even there....

I also do not understand why he can overrule you... you are both parents... why is his the final say? what makes his Yes overrule your No? I guess I am to logical but unless its big decisions both of you should discuss these minor ones should be up to your discretion....

((hugs)) polar

Um, Princess are you saying that you jumped on this without even making sure that she was telling the truth or he really did revoke your decision? Isnt it possible she called him and lied and did not tell him that you said no?

Geesh, sweetie, you will get along alot better with your husband if you communicate with him first before jumping to conclusions. It just pits the kids against you. Your husband should always come first and a quick phone call could have solved all of this.