The Best diet I ever tried and heard of is the simplest. Anyone can go one day without eating. If you fast for one day, then the next eat whatever you want you will be cutting your calories in half because you can only eat so much on Feasting days even it is more than usual you can't eat two days worth of food in one and you will be cutting your calories.

good luck with this. You sounded so glum that I sent a message.

First, work on the depression. Forgive yourself for the weight gain. Then, see your doc.

Exercise! It makes us feel better and lose weight. Of course, you'll probably gain muscle at first, so concentrate on building fitness and the pounds will come off.

Take a dance class???

The only diet that's really worked for me is. Only eating vegetables and fruit on alternative days. So eat normally one day the next day only eat vegetables and fruit.

I belong to a group, we had a discussion about dieting. A couple of us have been advised not to diet by our doctors. We've been advised to make sure we eat normal meals at normal times.
Maybe you need to work this through with your doctor and see if they have any advice for you.
MJ

My weight is an issue too. infact sitting here eating a pack of crisps as I type and I know the feeling of stuffing your face before bedtime. Think it has something to do with not wanting food but obliterating the feelings inside. I do what post #1 says, when my weight get way to out of control I go a day or two without eating anything which shrinks my stomach back down and the cycle starts over again. Infact as I type it, it sounds so crap. I guess the thing is to try and find out why you eat when your not hungry, as I said probably has something to do with shitty feelings. I know when people look and say hasn't she got anything better to do than worry about her weight but there is so much pressure to look at least reasonable. sorry if I am talking cod shit, don't really have any proper suggestions, just relate. *hugs*

I can relate and understand how you are feeling. I'm 5'4 and at my highest, not including prgnancies, i was 185. Just all the different meds and lack of motivation it is so hard and I found myself eating out of sheer boredome. I believe if you really want to lose the weight first of all, don't beat yourself up about it and don't get obsessed with it, that just leads to trouble. If Weight Watchers helped you in the past I say try it again. That's what i did and it helped alot, also going for walks. I know how hard it is to get out there and do it, but sometimes you just have to make yourself. Do you have a friend that you can go with?
Please try and go about this in a sensible way. You need to stay healthy and realize it's not going to happen over night but it will happen.
You have no reason to hate yourself, you sound just like me. This is not your fault. Please PM if you would like to talk. Take care of yourself.

Like so many of us, I can certainly relate to your feelings. I have been trying every DAMN DAY to start a diet!! I lost 42lbs last 2005-6. Ten months of hard work only to put back on about 25 of it already!! It's soo frustrating. I'm talking to my pdoc about a meds tweak to at least LOWER my Zyprexa. It makes you ravenous!! It's notorious for that!! And then, you're even more depressed. So what's the fuss all about the med for?? It gets me out of the deep dark hole but then what? I'm thinking about Lamictal. I hear it has great anti-depressant action and doesn't cause weight gain. Good luck to you. Lots of us are struggling with it!!

I know how you feel about hating yourself. During my chemo I went up to 200lbs. I'm 5'3". Oncologist said it would melt off once I finished the treatments. WRONG!
I found eating fruits and veggies and nuts to help a lot w/just a little meat or chicken. Exercising for 20 min. a day made a big difference. I try to go for walks when I can too. Nothing big, just a few blocks.
Why do you need to eat before you go to bed? That is one of the worst things. Is it because of meds? If so, you can just have toast and milk.
I hope this helps. I know the feeling, it's painful. But you can do it. I'm down to 152lbs. now and I'm still working on losing 10lbs. more.
If you "screw up" it's ok, just go back to it the next day. It's hard to change eating habits, takes time.

I've been there, i know exactly how you feel. The best book on weight issues i've read tells you to stop thinking about it. As you've said it is mainly due to your depression and so that is what needs to be addressed, not the weight. We can only be happy people if we are happy with ourselves regardless of how we look etc. I know that is easier said than done (believe me i know!) but it is something to think about... and it makes sense. If you are always thinking about your size, shape, and what you are eating it becomes an obsession and to stop yourself eating under those circumstances is near impossible. Those feelings of deprivation and shame would no doubt lead to further depression and so it continues. The theory goes that once you stop focusing on it and work on a general feeling fo wellbeing, your body will begin to find its natural, healthy weight based on your appetite and not on comfort eating. It is such hard work though, i really sympathise. Try not to be too hard on yourself, as you can see there are so many people in the same boat. Good luck and take care.

dieting dont work it's called life changes trust me on this one at one pint in time all i could control was the food i put into my body so i wouldnt eat so i gained weight alot of it i used to weigh 282 pounds then i became type 2 diabetic when i saw my specialest she looked at me and said dieting were done with were gonna change your eating outlook food isnt bad you can eat anything you want just three meals a day and one snack before bed somtimes in the afternoon if im really starved i eat a small snack latley its been fruit or a salad by my choice could be anything though one catch also i only eat about 44-55 carbs at a meal i watch my caffine i now weigh 195 pounds

my bad point and i think specialist ah hah got it...lol spelling errors im anal with them

I also no what you are going throuh.I used to be a 3-4 before being diagnosed with bp.That was three coming up on 4 years ago.I went from 119 to 161.I eat when I'm depressed too. I had started losing wieght the past 7 months.Got down to 142. Cut out bread ate meat and veg. and friut to snack on and workedout. But the last 2 weeks I have been so stressed out I gained 9 lbs. in two weeks. Back to eating everything I see.I hope I can get back on track and start loosing again. Being this big just makes me more depressed. Good luck too you.

meds r a bitch to with weight so is depression i know but remember you control it not your mind k hun you can do it i know you can

sorry about the b word i get frustrated...lol

I am in the same boat as you, Bonchi. i"m 60 lbs. overweight & my self-image is shot to heck. I think my meds. are causing it, as I was always thin until they put me on Depakote. I'm seeing Pdoc today & ask him if Geodon might be right for me, as i've heard it really helps with weight loss. Good luck to you & don't beat yourself up over it. Just try to find the underlying cause & work on it just a tiny bit each day. God bless & keep you.