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I Love My Boyfriend...

Jenniferswe
Jenniferswe

but my nasty, old roommate thinks I should get on the internet and find someone else.  This is because we rarely see each other due to covid-19.   We talk on the phone everhy night.  He is kind, compassionate and we have a lot in common.  He does suffer from anxiety so he's very cautious about the pandemic.


My nasty roommate, however, is extremely lazy and makes me do everything.  She's not kind or compassionate.  She is extremely rude.  The world revolves around her.  I know the only reason she invited us to share this apt. with her after my husband passed away so she could have a slave.  I lived with he before and it was the same way.  I didn't want to move in with he but I had nowhere else to go.  My family didn't make any offers not even my own dad.


I know I'm an adult and nobody owes me a living.  I shouldn't be taken advantage of and have my relationship belitted.  I'm trying to find someplace else but it's hard for somone in my position.

Community LeaderSunCloudJD
SunCloudJD
Big hug Jennifer..... Since it's your boyfriend you get to make the decision.... If she brings it up again I would just let her know that it's not up for discussion

If you're doing all of the housework I would ask her for a household meeting when you're calm

I would ask her if the 2 of you could set out a division of chores so that they're reasonable for both of you and if she doesn't do hers turn a blind eye for a while... Let some dust build up... Hopefully she's get to it when she doesn't like it messy..... Big hug....xo
Maui1992
Maui1992
Hugs Jennifer! Do you pay rent or do you work in the house in exchange for room and board? Is it a large place to clean? Is it just the 2 of you? Belittling your relationship is in very bad taste especially when he seems like a fine guy. How do you feel you are being taken advantage of? What are the things that make you feel like a slave? I hope things improve for you and I'm glad you have a boyfriend you can talk to every night. Best wishes XO
MayB
MayB
Hugs Jennifer,

Speaking up for one's self is hard but essential for happiness. (((hugs)))) None of this is ever easy....
mlr0853
mlr0853
You are an adult. You make the choices in Your Life for you and your son. Possibly 'roommate' is concerned you might move out and she'd loose her 'live in maid' who puts up with rudeness until you find another option, It's never easy to speak up, However telling her to mind her own business or you creating emotional boundaries, so she doesn't 'get to you' is important..at least I think ,this action would bring you some power and control to live your own life. Maybe even get her to help out more? Best to you :)
Bobbyshorts
Bobbyshorts
Hugs, Jennifer. I lost a gf and bf due somewhat to COVID. They dumped me and hooked up with each other. They don't even speak to me. But Linda, my gf was there, and I do not forget things like that. She is disabled but is moving around the house better. Life is good. The local idiots are still going strong, and I'm still working out looking for karate students. Linda is asleep in her chair. She looks so cute!
Jenniferswe
Jenniferswe
Thank you everyone. I'm going to find away to buy a house. I'm sick of renting.
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