Bipolar Disorder Support Group

Bipolar disorder is not just a single disorder, but a category of mood disorders marked by periods of abnormally high energy and euphoria, often accompanied by bouts of clinical depression. This is the place to talk about your experience with bipolar disorder, learn from others' experiences, and find support.

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nobody666 09/02/2008

I have the laziest spouse in the world. She quit her part time fast food job 6 months ago and has since done NOTHING. No it is not an exaggeration, I wish it was. She sleeps late 2-3p goes to bed watching TV 3-4a. Says she is more involved in our sons life than I am and she cant even help out and walk 6 blocks to pick him up from school on his first day when she knows I have other commitments. Now I have to change the whole day to cater to her sitting on her ass and gaining 20#.

Beat that!!!...

nobody666 09/02/2008

and I am the one who is wrong because of my desiese.

deleted_user 09/02/2008

woow...that's not normal. Maybe she's depressed, clinically.

deleted_user 09/02/2008

my boyfriend has to be nagged constantly to pay his bills, go to the dr, go to dentist, study. He claims he forgets and cant focus but wont go to dr to get ritalin or adderall. LAZY

dobiedots 09/02/2008

It's easy to do nothing when someone else does it for you.

deleted_user 09/02/2008

here is my 2 cents.
be very careful. this sounds almost exactly like my exwife..no jokes.
she quit her job after getting pregnant and wanted to stay home with my son. i agreed i didnt have a family really. so i wanted better for him.
i worked (no joke) 94 to 104 hours a week i have the pay stubs to prove it.
we agreed that when he was old enough to go to schoool she would go to work.
when that time came she left me.
she told me that she didnt love me anymore and could not use me any more.
not before she lost our house had credit cards in my name and drained the bank accounts..
she some how has a house and all the shit she wants i got hte check.

be very very careul.

deleted_user 09/02/2008

Have you spoken to her about seeking medical help or counseling? That would be a start. I understand your desire to lash out at her here in an anonymous place but your energy would be better put to use sitting down with her and telling her all these things and explaining to her that things CANNOT continue like this. Don't give her an ultimatum - like you will leave her or such - but tell her this is not going to work long term and you need to get help and I will help you get help.
I know sometimes this is the hardest thing to do but take the high road, be the bigger person - especially if you really love her. Offer to make the appointments and get her in the door. Then let the doctor take over from there.
Enlist the help of a close loved one whom your wife trusts if she won't listen to you. Whatever you do, don't make a spectacle of her or humiliate her in front of friends or family by airing dirty laundry.
Good luck!

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