it's funny you would post this today as my hubby just complained to me that I recoil when he touches me....I don't have the drive anymore and get tired of his advances, then I feel guilty. You are not alone with this! Hugs to ya!

It is quite common for psych drugs to make your sex drive go into the dumper. However unfortunate, it's important to remember that you needed medication for some reason in the first place. Maybe working hard at external things to "set the mood" might help. In any event, it sucks.

If you are off your meds(that killed your sex drive in the first place)..My experience is it takes a few weeks for the warm fuzzy feelings come back..in the mean time ,your weight issues may also have a factor in your lack of sexual drive(self esteam issues)..but sweetie,if your husband is still wanting you..it means he's still interested,and not bothered so much by your weight.
Just give it some time.

Yes he still wants me but I am unable to fill his sexual desires. I feel like I am a bad wife because I can't give him the love that he needs.

I am going to break out my exercise videos today since it's winter time and I get too cold going to water aerobics so I stopped going. I think that being since it is winter time that exercise videos might be a better choice.

BPPrincess..start thinking of yourself as sexy..REALLY!

I had issues about being overweight also,but my BF never made a big deal out of it..once I stopped taking BP meds that killed my sex drive,it took a few months for me to get "The Groove" back....I realised,if he thought I was sexy enough ,then I'd better start reprogramming my brain to remeber I WAS sexy...give it some time.

And remember I'm a fat old lady of 56..and the BF is a hottie 33!

Mind over matter..Think sexy,be sexy
Buy some new nighties..NOT flannel or grannie gowns..but some nice tastefully sexy stuff..don't feel goofy in them,feel sexy!
Good luck

I was JUST thinking of the same exact topic to post this morning! I have absolutely NO libido, even thinking about it annoys me. While in full blown mania regardless of being on the meds, I tend to be insatiable. I too feel guilty because my partner wants it and I am indifferent about it.

I will try but it's going to be hard. I used to be sexy and pretty. I was 135 pounds once. I wore a size 12. Only to be a 12 once again....that would make me feel sexy.

Sweetie,I started my walk down BP lane at 5'8",129.

Then came Lithium...80+ Lbs in 3 months..I never thought I could LIVE,and weight over 200 Lbs!
Well,I found out you can live and weight over 200 Lbs!

I've very slowly lost some,I'm down to a 186..still no where the svelte athletic woman I was (she's still in there somewhere!LOL!)

The weight gain has been the hardest for me to come to gripes with,as I was always SKINNY

Get yourself a bicycle.

Not only will it help you lose weight but it sure is guaranteed to restore your sex drive !

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Great advice Traffic..fresh air and your thigh and buttocks muscles a going..that aught to revive some of the UUMPHA back !

And if it don't restore the rider's sex-drive, then there is no hornier sight than a female on a bike !

;~}

I think I have a bike somewhere in the shed. I just got done doing my 20 minute workout thingy. I have Chalene Johnson's Turbo Jam. I got it last year for my birthday, and it made me feel a tiny bit better. I am also tired itchy and sweaty! Thanks for the advice traffic and danging you two are great!

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Pump up the tires, or else it is harder to pedal :-)

ps Get one of those gel seat covers too !

i'm in the same situation , but i'm only 5'0, and i weigh 190 pounds, i've been on many,many different kinds of medication, i'm afraid to go off because i usually crash,i'm going thru menopause too, which adds to my frustration, i feel ugly and unwanted,, my husband and i only have sex maybe every 3 months, it used to be more, but like you, i have lost my sexual drive, i wish i knew the answer but you are not alone,,