boo on ya'll

My family was NEVER on my side. I was always the bad guy. I finally learned to ignore their opinions. Some of them I broke off all contact with. I deserve better.

i was one of five children...i only speak to 1 of my sisters, that's it. i have no contact with my only child because he can't deal with my mental illness. never had any contact with any other relatives. frankly, people don't understand bp and how it works. it's probably amazing that we have anyone that wants to be around us, or that understands us. (((hugs))))

people very rarey know i have bipolar i have been stable so a good awhile and when im not its little manic bits so people dont notice as much..im 22 leaving at home still I know stayin here is bad for me..
i'm kinda trapped for now....I just hate when I see people freaked out by the unknown and they dont think that hurts me

RAWR I had totally tried to reply to this before by my university's wireless connection had yet again failed me.

It sounds like a lot if not all of this negativity you are getting from your mom is not about you and is all about her. It really looks like she has (at least) some major insecurities about the situation. I have no idea what her social life is like but maybe she has some kind of conflict going on there that is affecting her.

There are a lot of people in this world that will not understand. The world is just like that. Remember though, there is also a good amount of people that are honestly compassionate, understanding people who have a lot of empathy for others. Problem is they can be real hard to find (Im still searching) but never forget they are out there.

You are completely valid in how you feel. Never let anyone tell you otherwise.

Your friend may come to understand and accept it with some time. Sometimes some people just never understand at all. The ones that do understand are a blessing. The ones that don't can still be friends, you just talk about other things with them. Your mother may have had a difficult time accepting that you are bipolar, it's hard for a mom to think something is wrong with their child. Maybe she's feeling guilty at her own difficulty accepting it at first. Or maybe she's just upset on your behalf. You're still the same person you just have a name for why you feel the way you do. Take comfort in that and try not to worry about how others feel about the word "bipolar". ((hugs))

I agree with stuckat home. I'm not saying what your mom did was right at all - just that sometimes when people go off like this it's because they are upset, guilty or whatever and it comes out as anger.

I understand what you are saying meme. Sometimes we are much more vulnerable to our emotions and what might not bother us one day will bother us alot the next. I had this situation the last few days with my sons and husband. I realized that I was too stuck in my own head and I needed to step out and try to see their feelings in the situation. Most of the time they are just frustrated that they dont know how to help me.

My suggestion would be to let things settle a bit and then sit down with each of them and share you feelings about their reactions with them. xo

I don't think you can expect everyone to understand. I'm sorry for your mom's reaction though. That just wasn't fair. Your friend also must have hurt your feelings.

I hope that you are able to work things out with your mom and your friend.

I know that being bp sucks and dealing with the stigma associated isn't much fun either. It's hard to have friends who don't get it. You always have those of us here who do.

I understand how it feels to not have your friends understand you when it comes to this illness. I have lost friends because they didn't want to deal with me and my best friend with is pretty much one of my only close friend says she gets it but acts like i don't have or thinks i can do things in the same way as everyone else....if i have problems with something is like why..like why cant u drink...then i tell her cause of the meds i take..then she still acts why,.....cause it fucks with my mood. Really ppl close in ur life she inform themselves on this illness but most dont. Then it causes problems. I find it hard to be close to ppl or to make new friends.

I hate that, when it seems like it's just one bad thing after another because of this Bipolar!!
But I'm kind of with some of the others when it comes to your mom. She may feel guilty or very sad that you have Bipolar and it makes her sensitive to hearing that the condition is causing you problems out in the 'real world.' It's probably hard for her to see you struggle and she just wishes that you would ignore it when people behave badly out of ignorance.
I'm sorry that your own mum has trouble dealing with your BP too. It would help so much if she was more understanding!!!
I hope the crummy things quit happening to you now, for a while and that you can have some good times to counteract all this crap!!! (((((Hugs)))))