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How many ppl have lost friendships due to Bi polar

Disturbed420
Disturbed420
I have found over the years, I have had a hard time keeping a lot of my friendships. I have my 2 closer bestfriends but other than that, most of my friends I have or have had or pretty distant. I seem to feel left out of the loop of social interaction with ppl. I believe it has to a lot to do with the fact that I right ppl off, I isolate myself from the world half the time. I am always afraid of what others think (I have been trying to improve on that) it's a hard cycle to break. I thought once I had a child ( who is now almost a yr) I would be able to make new friends or feel more like I fit in, but I don't. I feel soo different from others. I don't tell a lot of ppl about my illness, its not like the strike of conversation, but if it does get brought up. No one GETS IT at all!!! It sucks, I rarly get invited to events or phone calls.

I am trying to build new friendships and meet new ppl and change myself for the better. I am a stay at home mother and I am having a hard time with that as well. I am trying to think positive and look at the bigger picture but it's very hard. I am sick of feeling like things won't change and being envious of everyone around me.
deleted_user
deleted_user
I cannot begin to explain how much you are not alone on everything you have said above. Through the course of the last couple months or so I have severed all ties with others. The only person I really talk to on some level is my mom (how sad is that). I walk around (when I rarely do go out...which is mainly just to buy food) thinking I have some scarlet letter that makes me different from all others. I walk around as if everyone was given the gift of finding happiness except me. This is far from the truth I know. The longer I stay caught up in this hermit lifestyle I'm not sure things will get any better. Just know that you are not alone.
Disturbed420
Disturbed420
I am sorry what do u mean by scarlet letter ( I never saw the movie don't know if that matters or not) lol
I find staying at home makes it far worse, but it's like where do u go expect to go somewhere to by food like u said or spend money somewhere that u don't have and then see others laughing , being happy ( having friends) and your sitting there alone wanting the same thing, I know the saying " the grass isn't always greener on the other side) but it seem a lot like it is most of the time.
I don't know how to get through this, but I have to be a believer that I will. I have always been a drifter and I hope one day I will be able to stop drifting and find my place in this world. I want to over come bi polar instead of it becoming who I am :S

I feel like I almost have to make friends that are in the same position as me, in order to have a friend that understands. Then again u dont wanna sit there talking about problems and negitive bullshit cause that doesn't get u anywhere.
deleted_user
deleted_user
The "Scarlet Letter" was a book. It represented a woman who was outkasted because she cheat on her husband. The society punished her by outcasting her and making her wear a scaret "S". Apparently this was to shame her forever.
deleted_user
deleted_user
Im wondering cause I know what it is like too also loose friends I am 18 and was officialy diagnosed with BP about a year ago, but I can remember when i was a child loosing friends because they couldnt handle the moods. I have one very close friend now, who has been there for me thre the SI(self-injuring, cutting) and just about everything. Do you go to a support group if not maybe yuou should look into one becuase there youll meet people hwo have the same problems as we all have, and there you might actually be able to meet someone who sufferes from the same stuff and can be there for you the same as you are there for them. I know I am only 18, but I try to give advice the best I could. Take Care HUGS' Felicia
Voltaire64
Voltaire64
The only friends I have are my 2 cats and I think even one of those are on the fence about me. I just can't deal with social interactions, it either tires me or is too intense for me and I end up making a fool out of myself followed by deep self loathing.
Voltaire64
Voltaire64
All the friends I did have want nothing really to do with me and what bothers me the most is the fact that it doesn't bother me at all. So used to the isolation now.
deleted_user
deleted_user
I'm isolated too. I have cut ties from my family and now have found out I basically have no one who really cares about me, except for my roommate. I long for a real bond with someone. I haven't had a boyfriend in 2 years (had a horrific experience with a psychopath for 2 years and that has been my experience with love-to be idealized, then hated and played with, laughed at and lied to the whole time) I was single for 15 years before that. I would be happy for that bond to be with a friend who shares my interests, doesn't have to be romantic. I isolate and it's so hard to go out. I'm exhausted constantly and sick.
deleted_user
deleted_user
Voltaire (like your name) you said
" I just can't deal with social interactions, it either tires me or is too intense for me and I end up making a fool out of myself followed by deep self loathing. "

I feel exactly the same way. Socializing exhausts me. Loud talking-I have to get away from it after a short time or I will freak out. And if I feel enthusiastic and do something, later I might feel shame about it
deleted_user
deleted_user
I have the same problem just a few friends I like to keep people at a dis tance safer for me and them. I have alot of friends out of town so when I am doing good it is easy for them to see the good side I try not to let people see the bad side.
deleted_user
deleted_user
I know exactly how you feel. When I was younger I had a few friends, but over the last 3 years I've lost almost ALL my friends. I barely talk to a couple and only have one close friend, with which I am a little scared to be so close with because of my moods...
deleted_user
deleted_user
I do. Mostly because my friends have usually used me in the past or they are just incredibly emotionally exhausting people. So I gradually withdraw from them or just isolate myself completely. When I isolate they get mad, but they just don't understand that I'm going through some shit and this is my coping method. Idk. Losing friends has been the hardest thing to cope with too. I'm so lonely all the time =\
deleted_user
deleted_user
I can relate, I have alot of people that distance themselves from me. Its so hard having these illness'. Some of the reason people stay away from me is because I don't interact socially. I get invited out to most family events although I don't usually go. It's just too hard for me to interact .
Voltaire64
Voltaire64
Inception, I'm kind of the same way as you. On those rare occasions where I feel enthusiastic and socialize I always feel depressed and shame about it in the end. No boyfriend in 2 years? Geez, going on 10 here. I dated a very sweet lady for a number of years prior but the times where I couldn't handle eye contact or her physical touch increased dramatically, she never could understand that it didn't have anything to do with her, it was just too intense for me.
deleted_user
deleted_user
BP depression is very isolating and takes away all my socialability. I an down to one good friend who tries to understand how I feel
deleted_user
deleted_user
my God i can relate to all you guys!!we are all in the same boat here,i don't have a friend in the world(how freakin' sad is that?)i do know my cat loves me,my son is not talking to me cuz of some email crap that went down almost 2 years ago!!my sister's haven't talked to me over a year now,it's kinda funny i remember having friends back in 1995 but slowly but surely they all went away,so for now it's me and my bubba(cat)i really don't think i'd be that lonely if i had my son and his children in my life(he won't let me see my grandaughters)well i could go on and on but i won't just wanted to put my 2 cents in.it's sooo good to here from others just like me,hugs to all of you!!