Time. Really that's the only advice I can give. There is no way to really get over the person other than waiting and pushing forward.

I have been dumped by women I love - one even dropped me for another guy. She didn't know I'd just bought a 3/4 carat diamond engagement ring and intended to propose marriage. I was devastated -

Until it was God's way of protecting me from ruining my life by marrying her.

I believe it is similarly God's way of protecting you from being in a relationship that He in his wisdom knew was destined to do you some harm.

I now have a GORGEOUS engagement ring for someone that He will know is the perfect spouse for me. All I need to do is trust in his wisdom to always protect me from such mistakes in the future until He leads me to the love that I deserve, and that she deserves me.

Yes it hurt, and I cried for several days, and yes I was sad (NOT DEPRESSED - there is a HUGE difference) until I understood that He was always acting with my best interest and protection as His goal, and that experienced led me to TRULY trust Him to guide my life.He is truly my advocate, my protector, and my light when I am having dark times.

- KK

Time will help you heal. And just like you said, forcing yourself to try to stop thinking about him, only makes you think (and feel) about him all the more. Keep in mind, you are going through a grief process; the loss of your close relationship. You will go through similar phases as others do when they lose a loved one. If you feel "stuck" in a certain phase, it might be helpful to do something constructive or creative to help process that part. Like perhaps, journaling about your feelings ~~ not just an account of what happened. And/or, write a letter to him, Most likely it will not be one you actually send if it would be hurtful to him. But emotionally, it is very free-ing to crumple it up and burn the damn thing. and then, perhaps, write a constructive letter you may or may not want to actually send.

There was this guy once, really great guy, and it took about well at least 8 years to really stop thinking about him, but he is still on my mind and I laugh at the thought of the silly things he used to do but I no longer have feelings for him :) It takes time hopefully it won't take 8 years LOL It is just normal in my opinion.

I agree time is the key... and trying to focus your mind on other things (my husband left me 6 months ago and he still occupies too much of my head space but it is getting better)

good luck and take care

There is something so basically comforting about knowing that this is the person I love and they love me. It's almost separate from all the actual details of the relationship. So when a relationship fails, on some level we can understand and accept it, but on the other hand we're left with an abundance of love to give and a gaping hole in our love-intake tank.

Enter pet therapy. A fuzzy little critter can do wonders. If you aren't in a position to add a new little bundle of joy to your life, you can still find a shelter that would love to have you cuddle and exercise their guests.

i dont have a way it hard but finding someone else could help i think of people all the time and it hurts to have them not be there to talk to if i could i would but there just not there to talk to if you can try to connect with someone new

I agree with time as well....it's a great healer..
If you're thinking about him keep it real.. try and not to build fantasies that aren't real... you broke up for a reason... I hope you feel better soon...and you will feel better sweetie.. this to shall pass...x

You learn to radically accept the truth. You learn to ground yourself in truth which is reality. You may wish something was different and this may trigger painful emotions that you get caught in. You need to remember where you are in these moments and live in the present moment not in the past. The past is gone. You learn to accept the truth of this moment.