To answer your last question I'm pretty sure you can set your setting to receive emails when friends post pics, and jounals...as well as hugs to you...plus daily updates on various groups you belong to. Also above and to the right is a "Watch this" link...that's how you can follow individual threads...I've never done it but assume you'll get an email whenever someone makes a post in your chosen thread. If you're going mobile...choose your settings wisely.

The moving part and all that stuff? I used to be in the hauling business and when people were clearing out to...say downsize because the kids have all grown and the place is just too big to handle...my best and most appreciated advice for the client was to spend some time thinking what they really need...then really want...then get ruthless by being generous to local charities who will come pick up the stuff for free...and the rest I would haul for a fee.

Problem is...some forgotten treasures do slip through the process. I'm sure you've heard stories of someone buying a million dollar piece of art for a hundred bucks in a yard sale. So unburdening one's lifetime of stuff has it's benefits for more than just the home owners.

Maybe you would have less stress if you just puttered around looking for those little nuggets that might get lost in the shuffle. :-)

I hope you two can come up with an acceptable compromise so that Both of you can feel comfortable in the new space :)

I'm feeling better and ready for round 2 on Monday which I'm keeping to 3hrs max! Will check settings. thanks!

"Stuff" makes me crazy. I have to have organization in my life or I feel like my brain explodes. My focus and concentration is directly influenced by my surroundings. I have four sons and a husband and none of them are organized. Soooo, I close their bedroom doors and my husband knows my limits. If he has too much crap laying around, I box it up............funny thing is that is NEVER misses any of it, LOL

I'm the same way! Clutter makes me crazy and then I go into a depression. I need to have everything put away so I can have a clear mind and function. In an emergency I will just throw stuff in the closets or basement or shed, just to get it out of my face. Then when I can handle it, I'll sort through.
Be careful you don't get too stressed out. When I had to move my mom, and she was a Hoarder....I fell apart and had to be hospitalized.

Something like that would test my patience. I don't do well with chaos. I've moved a WHOLE lot in my life. I just couldn't take it like I used to. I've always heard if you don't love it or use it toss it. That's how I try to deal with my stuff but I understand this is a huge project so I'm sure it's not that easy. MANY MANY GOOD WISHES!!!

I think doing a clean-out is a good idea.

Some of us don't seem to get them... I don't and I've tried to change my settings several times fdl.... I still don't get them

I don't have room for what I don't use and I don't keep it or I'd be cluttered and I hate my surroundings cluttered..

I love garage sales and second hand stores though... I'm happy to go to them and to donate to them.... There's always places like ebay if you want to try and sell things....x

She's getting a lot of help and I'm just pitching in for a day here and there. I got overwhelmed when, at 90 yrs old, she still has clothes with tags on and bras still in boxes! She has 60 pairs of slacks and says she needs to buy skirts. I do think it's great that she's not the least bit concerned that she really doesn't have too many yrs left. Her clothes are very neat- she's a neat freak, and very new looking. She really is a pleasant woman; definitly not a hoarder. Just a classy lady which I can appreciate; I love fashion too!

I grew up with hoarders. My dad keeps papers, any and all kinds, my mom keeps everything else. I personally can't stand owning too much. It bugs me, although I couldn't tell you why :) To keep my possessions to a minimum I go through everything I own roughly twice a year and downsize. If I haven't used it within the past year and it's still in decent shape I'll donate it.

There are of course some exceptions, books, small things kept for memory sake, etc.

If someone asks me to help them clean house I keep repeating the same thing over and over with each item in question, "Why do you have this? Do you need it? Could someone else make use of it?" The idea of donating tends to help a person let go of things they don't need and if you live in or near a major city there's no shortage of places willing to take donations.