Hard to say if this is due to the bipolar or anything else.

Not sure what I can say tha tis helpful. Obviously they need to be on meds. These two links might be useful in finding free/ low cost treatment.

http://www.dailystrength.org/c/Bipolar_Disorder/advice/8224882-advice-link-free-health

http://www.dailystrength.org/c/Bipolar_Disorder/forum/13187966-lets-talk-programs-and-help

Sounds like she is self medicating. Get her to Social Services so she can go get meds...Much love.

I agree to reach out to social services.... She's self medicating because she needs help....I'm sorry that you and your daughter are going through this... big hug...xo

Lovey1425,

Social services is a great idea. Maybe talk to her pdoc if she has one? When I went through a bout with insurance for a year, my pdoc gave me samples of my meds as long as I was consistent about seeing him.

When the adults in my life are out of control and impacting my life, I get help for myself. I don't offer help or suggestions until asked. Out of control adults are still adults, whatever the relation, and I shift my own focus to maintaining my own sanity and safety.

But that is me. . .

Gentle support while you find what works for you, lovey.

Hi and Welcome to DS. Arfie has a really good point, your DD may become even more problematic if she feels like she's being told what to do....Care for yourself, and hubby takes care of the kids.....if you google 211 and the state you live in all State Human Services will appear....Best of luck!

Thank you all for your kindness. It's true, DD is an adult, and is well aware of how her emotional swings are causing pandemonium in the house. I'm a long-time member of Al-Anon, and am grateful for the reminder that interference is annoying at the very least and disastrous at its worst. DD has brought up her interest in returning to therapy and medications. I will post again, as have found this board supportive and understanding. Thanks again!

Is this your daughter your talking about? And is it your home with your husband and 2 young children? Sorry I'm trying to get the home dynamics figured out....

Yes, Daughter is 35 years old. She and her husband live with me in a rental, kids are theirs.

Why are you letting a grown woman drink excessively and create stress and trouble in the household where there are children? There are ways to get your meds without insurance. Every city in every State has a Mental Health System, with Clinics where you can go and see a Pdoc for a reduced or free rate, you can also get meds their or get coupons for very cheap meds. She needs to get her responsibilities in order and get back on track.

Her being in that house self-medicating with alcohol and causing trouble and stress to those children is not a good scene. It only takes 1 anonymous call to CPS and the kids could be removed from the home. Is she loud, do the neighbors hear her when she's ranting and raging?

I'd take a step back and think about whats really important here. Your daughter needs help, but she's an adult and the only person that can make her get help is herself, when she's at her lowpoint and tired of living the way she is.

But in the meantime, your & the husbands focus should be on keeping those safe and that house does not sound like a safe place, mentally or physically. If it were me, I'd find her somewhere else to stay until she's ready to get help and become a contributing member of the family, not the problem.

Take care,