Bipolar Disorder Support Group

Bipolar disorder is not just a single disorder, but a category of mood disorders marked by periods of abnormally high energy and euphoria, often accompanied by bouts of clinical depression. This is the place to talk about your experience with bipolar disorder, learn from others' experiences, and find support.

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rainbowcat 04/17/2017

so iv been in this relationship for 3 years , it's started off amazing , to good to be true , and over time got worse and worse . He turned out being very controlling , constantly putting me down , streaming , cursing , calling me names and threatening to hurt and kill me , once even threatened to kill my kids . I'm 28 years old and finally ready to leave , but I'm scared to death to be on my own I have always been in relationships and have extreme anxiety / bipolar depression . I plan tomorrow to call a shelter for help and place to stay I don't work due to mental illness but don't get any kind of disability,just on welfare , even tho he is such an idiot to me I love and care about him and I don't know why . I need help , words of encouragement, I have nobody here besides him so will be completely alon until I get apartment and get my children back who are staying with there father , I'm terrified of all the changes that are about to happen !!

bipolarkrazy 04/17/2017

Rainbowcat,
You can do this it will be hard I am not going to lie to you. But you are strong, with bipolar and taking baby steps and making through the struggles shows that you are strong. It's just more baby steps and facing more fears that are scary very scary. I have been in a similar situation to the one you are in and it is scary there is so much help out there for you.
Bipolar Krazy

takeahint 04/18/2017

I have also been in a similar situation and it's incredibly difficult. But you CAN do this. It shows genuine insight that you need to remove yourself from the situation and you should be proud of that. My inbox is always open if you ever need. Stay strong.
T.

beckyp 04/18/2017

I could have written this post rainbow. I was married to a man who was abusive for 27 years. Don't do what I did and stay. It's not worth it. Believe me. You have a good plan. I'm sure the shelter will be able to give you the support you need. You won't be alone in this. God bless.

mlr0853 04/18/2017

Rainbow...follow your "name" and your dreams for a better life, find within you the belief You Deserve to Be Safe and Happy. Your fears, yes you feel them, yet many times what we fear is "False Evidence Appearing Real ... creating anxiety and questioning our decisions. Your kids are safe, you can get help from many people, try infoline, or 211 + your state name...it gives a listing of all social services available...stepping outside your comfort, facing your fear, pushing through the challenges will bring a better life for you and for your children. One day at a time, one step at a time, prioritize and keep posting!! Welcome to DS, there are many here to support you! Best, ml

SensitiveHoboLady 04/18/2017

Much strength and support sent your way. Lean on others for support and you can get through this!

SunCloudJD 04/18/2017

Hi and Welcome rainbow.... I;m glad that you found us

It's great that you recognize that there's something really wrong and dangerous here..... There is often a 'honeymoon' period after terrible abuse and people want to believe that this person loves them
It's also not fair to bring children up in this environment... . They are learning from him as well as you how 'to be' in the world

Woman's Shelters are great..... I volunteered in one several years ago and they are a wealth of help in both safety and getting to the 'next step'

Please be safe first and foremost
DS is a great site.... I'll put up some crisis links that they provide

There is also a Healthy Relationships board here as well a

Physical and Emotional abuse board

https://www.dailystrength.org/group/physical-emotional-abuse

You deserve so much better.... Love doesn't hurt all of the time sweetie..... Big hug and a blessing......xo

SunCloudJD 04/18/2017

Crisis Resources that DS puts up to help people here

https://support.dailystrength.org/hc/en-us/articles/207430776-What-if-I-need-emergency-help-

2GraceFULL 04/19/2017

You should have several avenues to take such as Crisis Centers, Domestic Abuse, etc. They can help you get on your feet again and find resources for you to get help mentally and physically. I assume this man is not your children's father? Staying with their Dad is wise of you until you can get yourself settled and back on your feet. For now take care of yourself, let others help you and do not look back, you do not deserve to be abused and it is not your fault. You have been brain washed by him to think you don't deserve anyone that would treat you like you should be treated. Don't listen to the lies and allow him to control you any longer. I would not tell him you are leaving! Contact the resources others have given you in this group. You CAN do this!

Melise 04/20/2017

It's going to be scary, but you are doing the right thing for yourself and your children. It took me years to get to that point with my ex-spouse, so kudos to you for being able to recognize the gravity of the situation. Going it alone sucks, but you will find a strength in you that you never knew you had. You totally got this. And when all the dusts settles, you will know without a doubt that you did the right thing.

Girlfightsback 04/20/2017

You are very brave. You have been thru a lot and I am so glad that you value yourself enough to get out of there because you know that you deserve better. Im sure your kids would be much happier with their mom. I cannot imagine how scary all of this is for you. All I can do is tell you that I am around if you ever need to vent. And I will send strength and healing vibes your way. You are not alone. You got this.

Benitro 04/20/2017

It sounds like you are taking the right steps. You have identified the problem, and you and your kids are going to be better getting away from the abusive person in the long run. It won't be easy, but it will be worth it!

I have a friend who escaped from a horrible similar situation, perhaps it would help if you could speak with her. Let me know and I'll try to put you two in touch.

rainbowcat 04/21/2017

Thank you everybody for all the kindness and understanding , feeling so alone right now you don't know how much it means to me to read all that you have all wrote , thank you again for the support !

rainbowcat 04/21/2017

And . An update , I did make the call and I am at the shelter . Keeping busy doing lots of online browsing for apartments and looking any services that can help , I'm going to start going back to regular treatment for my mental illness , so far feeling pretty positive .

Benitro 04/21/2017

Awesome Cat, congrats! Here's to a bright future!

SensitiveHoboLady 04/21/2017

You are strong and you can do this! xo

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