Thank you jan4jam. I've been looking for a new site. One that's a wee bit warmer. Too many cliques, as kev said. Enough is enough sometimes. PEACE.

Kev, sorry that DS is bumming you out. It has been a lifeline to me and I am sorry it hasn't been that great for you tho. In my opinion--try reaching out to others.There are a lot of people here that make some friends and never even look at the main board. There is a lot of drama on it at times and granted, so its not everyone's cup of tea.

the best way to get support, sometimes is to offer it to others--
make some new friends by being a friend first. I hope you find your support.

Kev, to be honest, my shrink told me he thinks I should stay off here for awhile. That it doesn't seem helpful nor supportive. I tell him of cliques and bullying and he said this doesn't sound like the best place for me right now. I also told him I didn't know how he dealt with people like us all day. But I've yet to decide on it. I am looking into other groups. When I joined a year ago, it wasn't like this. SUPPORT GROUP. Get it everyone. I hope so and I hope things improve. PEACE.

a big sorry to everyone. and hi to all that remember me. i know for some this place is a great support place and i forget we all are fighting bp and all go up and down. so so sorry had such a bad day yesterday. fighting hard to be a better me. thanks to jan for information on support sight. love peace to all here at ds kev

Kev what I like about DS you can express yourself. Kev you werent here when I was called a predator and troll etc.This was two years ago. I could have ran, but didnt. DS has over 500 support groups all supportive. I even started a domestic abuse survivors group with 71 members. I could have left with anger, but instead I turned it into support. Stay strong.

glad to see you are feeling better...

wheres the clique? i want to join it...

I don't care about cliques... I am my own person. I barely get noticed but thats okay. But I see what you mean. Sorry you feel this way

I hear what you're saying kev78. I find myself irritated by some of the silly posts. But, every post doesn't have to be about bipolar issues. It's nice to talk about other things sometimes. But, yes I can do without the inappropriate posts.

I can understand what you're saying, but I have found DS to be a life saver for me. I just stay away from the posts that I think may trigger me.

I agree that this place is clique-y. I barely get noticed either.

Funny, I have thought about the same thing you posted often, Kev. It doesn't matter what the topic is -- gravely serious or light hearted. I want to post, I get excited to post, and then I read the thread and see it's the same handful of people engaging in dialogue repeatedly. This happens over and over in different posts, sometimes the people are the same, sometimes they vary a bit. I see "outsiders" post as well, and their post is all but ignored by the "cliques". I feel like I could post the exact same message as someone who has been here longer or has more friends or posts fifty times a day, and their post would receive 25 responses while mine might get 2 or 3.

I guess in reality this is no different than real life, DS is just a microcosm of the real world. I know (well, I don't think) most of these people mean any harm, it's just frustrating at times here. Anyways I'm sure I came across as a big whining child with this response but it had to be said, so thanks for initiating the topic.

@realityis: No you didn't sound like a child to me. You spoke the truth. And as you said, it is a microcosm of the real world. My husband told me that people feel safe behind their computer and that's why there's so much cyber bullying. No threat of a real throw down so let that unknown person out in cyber space have it. I don't remember cliques and stuff from when I first joined. Or even when I was on here 6 months ago. There are still cool people here. You'll figure out who's cool as in nice and who isn't. I hope you're feeling better today. PEACE.

Thanks Sam. Felt a bit better waking up, but I know the days are long so never know what the day will bring. I have absolutely met some great people on here, "real" people, people who care about the individual past their username and their avatar. And I'm sure some of the "clique" people have found the same. But that shouldn't mean ignoring or making other people feel like crap. I do think some folks on here walk around like they "own" the boards, but thinking about it, maybe they just have issues of insecurity or issues from their past and DS is the place they make up for it. YOU however, are a GEM :)

@realityis: Thank you for such sweet words. Yes, there are cliques and bullies on here. You have to try to ignore them but that they're here at all is BS. This is a support group site. I can understand getting silly and having fun but to bully another person who suffers, as you do, from Bipolar. That's evil. It is. I hope your day gets better. Mine will be good. The depression is lifting and my out of control hair is getting cut today. So it's a good day. PEACE TO YOU and PM me anytime. I am here for you.