yes my daughter tells me that it is just mind over matter. That I could change my anxiety by just concentrating on something else. That I shouldn't let the hallucinations bother me because I know they are not real.

My husband 'thinks' he's doing me a favor by driving me to places that make me feel uncomfortable so that I can assimilate. IT DRIVES ME NUTS! On bad days, I don't think he's trying to fix me necessarily, but he'll stress and stress that I get out and go do something ANYTHING. He doesn't quite fully understand the depth of depression, so of course he's going to try and pull me up from underneath. My mother is constantly telling me to just "shake it off", "get it together", or "all you need is a hobby!" - I love that last one as if having a hobby will take away schizoaffective disorder. What a cure that would be.

My mother keeps telling me that I need to join her religion and I won't have so many "problems". I believe in God, don't get me wrong, but religion isn't going to make my Bipolar, PTSD and Panic Disorder go away.

I understand, 100%!

There have been two adults in my life that love me just like I am. The rest used to try to fix me, now they have given up. Now it's just that blank stare and a hmmmmmm. I almost miss it.

I so get it. My mom and I are very close and she tries her best to be supportive. But she is always insists that If I can just lose all this weight that all my depression and anxiety will go away. I have tried to explain that even once I lose weight I will still have these other issues. Others just dont get it what we go thru. Hugs.

I think a lot of us have gone through this... I do think people are well meaning... They see someone they love that has an illness and it's out of their control... They want you healthy and happy even if they go about it the wrong way
Boundaries are always important... Gentle hug...x

Always!!! I have been told to see the doctor to fix my jitters as I am always moving. The doc says if it doesnt bother me who cares what others see. My mother for years has told me you are all over the place you should read more, walk more, go to church more do something to change yourself. When I started to accept myself the way I am I started to feel comfortable in my own skin I tend to start to point out others flaws when they try to fix mine. I know that isnt right but it does get them to shut up!!! lol

Yes it used to be that way. Now that I have taken more control by turning my willfulness into willingness to do what I can- they have backed off. I am relieved.

Sending you positive thoughts and good energy.

My "family" couldn't have cared less about me, got away from them decades ago. Never had any friends. Don't tell people I have Bipolar cuz it's nobodys business. Nobody has ever tried to "fix" me except my pdoc, and he should really know better. There is no "fixing" bipolar, there is only managing it's symptoms. Hope you feel better soon.

I'm fortunate to have a loving & caring husband who is not trying to change me. Must be because he's bipolar as well.
I have no family so all that baloney is done with.
My mom once said that if I could just learn to relax I wouldn't be bipolar. (help me god).

Yeah my ex-husband actually said "You need to pull up your bootstraps!" My mother thought I should take more B vitamins....

I now have many supportive friends and a wonderful boyfriend who understand and help me through the rough spots.

((((hugs))))) you are fine just the way you are!