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Difficulty with Making Tough Decions

Jenniferswe
Jenniferswe

In trying to do what is best for my son and me, I have make a lot of decisions.  I'm in a depression phase now and I am finding it difficult to make tough decisions.  I don't want to post the details of my problem in this post.  This post is about how to has robbed my of my decision making skills.


I feels like I've returned to childhood thought processes.  It's frustrating.  I know I am an adult.  I want to function like one, again.


I'm afraid of making a mistake and messing up our lives more.


I have therapist appt in a few days.  I going to tell her my problem and  maybe she will help me work through it.

arfie
arfie
Gentlest of support while you work it through, Jen. Making decisions for myself can be hard enough while I am depressed. Making decisions for other people is downright scary, depressed or manic, especially when the other people young and vulnerable.

Prayers (by whatever name) in progress for both you and your son.
Jenniferswe
Jenniferswe
Thank you
Debbalina
Debbalina
Jenn Im sorry your having a tough time. I know my decision making skills go out the window as well when I am depressed. I'm not sure what to suggest. Maybe postpone whatever decisions you can and as far as the others - try and access some friends or family for help/opinions/advice. Or access us here on DS via your journal or something if you'd like things more private. I hope talking to your therapist will help. Sending prayers and hugs.....
Debbalina
Debbalina
I know what you mean too by reverting to childhood thought processes and wanting so much to be able to be an adult. Depression is so mean in what it robs us of. I read somewhere that negative people function at a 30% lower level than those who are positive. So it really does affect our thinking. Again - think of accessing friends on DS - even by email - if only just to vent. We're here!
mlr0853
mlr0853
Hi Jenn....similar issues with decision making when I'm depressed and 'when I'm not depressed'. Sometimes I just get so afraid of the outcome, not making a mistake just projecting all the different scenarios and then the procrastination starts, my mind goes around and around...until finally I can't stand the pain and anxiety any longer and I do 'something'...any small decision...ask questions to find an answer...doesn't have to be the 'best' answer, just a push in the right direction...Jenn, you have the strength, I know you do for all that you have survived...think about that strength and take that small step...you have lots of friends here...we're all rooting for you!!! all the best to you and yours :-) ML
sweetguy123
sweetguy123
Decision making can be tough at any time let alone when you are depressed, don't sweat on it too much, keep the faith and you hopefully pull in the right direction. Prayers also help in putting the mind to rest or projecting light onto the path of a correct decision. The fight is always between fear and faith, you have to follow what you choose.
Jenniferswe
Jenniferswe
Thank you everyone. Big hugs.
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