Big hug sweetie... Well I sure get aging.. sigh.... I'm sorry that you and your son are having some issues.... xo

Thank you SunCloud

Sadly Jenn your age is out of your control. How you Think About Your Age Is In Your Control. What are you now about 57 or so? Don't forget good ole menopause is contributing to the mental/physical changes...for me, that time Sucked!

Think about the many changes you've made in the past year, moving away from toxic situation and becoming your own person, living the life you choose.

I really think good things are just around the corner for you, butta ya got to go out and look, not just stay in apt...no good, I can tell you that from my own experiences...I know it's not easy to put yourself out there, maybe a senior center activity, or church...just a small place so it's not over whelming.

As for your son, could he live independently or in supportive living? Right there with you as you know John and I have had Many Issues from the past. Only now that he knows how 'good he had it', learned 'he screwed up' and got the consequence of having to leave ... well now, he has more respect, for himself and his own abilities to take care of himself. I think Eric needs some of that too, what do you think? I'll message you the info of John's program. Take care <3

Thank you Mari. I'm 53 now. The aging is hard because I still see myself as that young woman with energy. I need to realize that she is gone and replaced buy a mature woman.

I like having Eric here. It's comforting.

Hugs

It's a different mindset Jenn. Less energy and aches in all the places you used to play...Oh I'm familiar...

Motion is lotion even little things help. The internet is full of gentle yoga moves that really can make a big difference....even that morning walk around the block!

I hate the message of "pace yourself" but sometimes it just comes down to that.

Be good to yourself! ((((hugs))))

lol Jenn...I totally get the 'head age' and the real 'body age'...I'll be 70 in August and I'm still around 25 or so in my head!

Thank you guys. Hugs for all of you.

I'm 55 and right there with you. Even on mood stabilizers I am amazed how quickly my mood can shift from even 24 hours. Fortunately, the medicines work as brakes. I sleep a lot, have a spine that ought to be replaced...but haven't found a dealership yet. Throw out my back more often and even had to go to ER for pain that was 9.5 out of ten. After all that, muscle strain of some kind. Isolation increases with age I think as there are often already a small group of people that one relies upon. I've been writing poetry and fiction more often and engaging in art..when I am able to motivate myself. Its a way to focus on anything but feeling the shadows creep in. I brush the cat and delicately check on plants to give me a sense of nurturing something living when I'm not traveling to help my four children as they need and do simple stuff at the wife's behest. I suspect that there is a constant struggle for relevance in a world that constantly shifts and changes. People who actually address their symptoms like us often can't keep up which can be disappointing when we know there are many others out there who simply won't address what is plaguing them. A ship captain with a spinning compass is likely going to have some trouble. Mid-life is certainly one of those points that compounds a spinning compass to a spinning compass not to put to fine a point on it. We hold on to what we can use as an anchor and build from there. Groups like this...I think they serve as sort of a lighthouse. Even if its a pale light and far distant, it still gives some direction when everything else seems veiled in darkness. I'll work with that over darkness.

Thank you