Bipolar Disorder Support Group
Bipolar disorder is not just a single disorder, but a category of mood disorders marked by periods of abnormally high energy and euphoria, often accompanied by bouts of clinical depression. This is the place to talk about your experience with bipolar disorder, learn from others' experiences, and find support.
My name is Madalyn.. I am very desperate for help . My daughter is 29 years old and is going through a divorce and has been diagnosed with bipolar 2 disorder. She has a 6 year old and a 3 year old daughters. They are all living with me in order for her to get her life back on track. She has been with me for 4 months and she is getting worse and worse. She stays up all night on the phone and drinks till she is drunk, (she has never been a drinker) and sleeps all day. Won’t get a job, because sh says she is not mentally ready yet. She has told me she doesn’t like her kids and all she does is scream at the top of lungs at the for anything. It’s like they can’t be kids and they never do anything good. She is spiraling out of control. She takes Xanax and mood stabilizers, but continues to drink. I am extremely worried about her and more so my grand babies. I’ve asked her to get therapy as well as take her meds and she says she will , but will not follow through. Our home is in total disarray. My husband and I don’t know how to handle this anymore and feel the need to start protecting our grand babies from her wrath. We do not know how to deal with this at all. If we try to say something to her she goes off and just goes crazy and threatens to take the grand kids and never let us see them. I truly feel like my home has been high jacked.
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The weeks seem to fly by!Happy Saturday to everyoneI hope that the weekend brings some chill time and barbecuesDoes it take others what seems like forever to add a comment on the boards?I'm okay everywhere else except boards..Everywhere else adds normally but it's annoyingly slow!Have a great Saturday and do something nice for you!!Big hug...xo
I never yelled, screamed, hated my son. I had absolute respect for my parents, and I was grateful they helped me get on my feet again. I was a heavy drinker in those days, never drank once the whole time I stayed with them. I was 22!
What you are saying to me, is that your daughter is rude, dishonouring, selfish and using bipolar disorder as an excuse to be a spoiled brat.
People with bipolar disorder do weird things, esp. when not on meds. Her behaviour is more indicative of a personality disorder to me. Not that I am there to see her in person, , or qualified to diagnose.
She is not psychotic, and taking her meds. I'm sure people will say she needs a med change, and she may. She also needs to go to AA. And you need to go to AlAnon and learn how to not enable her!
Her behaviour is not really bipolar, but a spoiled brat. Sorry if this is harsh. Bipolar has enough of a stigma already, without adding selfish spoiled brat to the mix!
This is addictive behaviour.... and she's acting out.... It does seem more about personality and she's a nasty drunk.... There is a good Alcoholism board on here
I would absolutely stop enabling this behaviour.... If you need to call CPS about how the children are being treated .. This is no good having them around this type of behaviour.... You can have her legally removed from your home.... Go to court and get a restraining order if you have to
If you know who her psychiatrist is you can call him/her give a report as to what's happening
Perhaps their father should have custody right now??
Bipolar is a cyclical disorder with long periods of stability in between cycles.... This isn't bipolar symptoms
Friends and Families of Bipolar
https://www.dailystrength.org/group/family-friends-of-bipolar
Alcoholism Board
https://www.dailystrength.org/group/alcoholism
I agree that Alon might be a really good support for you and your husband.....xo
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Tell her she cannot live with you until she stops drinking, takes her meds, sees her Therapist and does the work to get her Mental Illness under control. The children will stay with you, but she cannot.
She's at a stage where it's time for tough love, not hand-holding and empty compromises. She is the only one who can help herself and get her self on the right path. The children need to be protected.
Because of the opioid epidemic there are a number of organizations dedicated to helping grandparents through the system. I know that you didn't state that opioids were part of your issue...but you could still find support there.
For example this is what I found for California:
http://www.grandfamilies.org/Portals/0/State%20Fact%20Sheets/Grandfamilies-Fact-Sheet-California.pdf
And for Texas:
https://www.elderoptionsoftexas.com/texas-grandparents-raising-grandchildren.htm
And my state of Pennsylvania:
http://www.pahouse.com/files/Documents/2018-01-25_030722__121%20Grands%20Raising%20Grandkids.pdf
Many places around the country have in person support groups. Because custody laws are STATE laws...you need local advice to understand what your rights are, where to go for help, etc.
Best of luck, and big hugs to your grandchildren,
Patti
I'm bipolar 1 and a couple of years ago I fell into a deep psychosis and made threats against my kids. My parents had me committed for about a week and called CPS and fought to take my kids away. They were trying to get me into the State Hospital and finish raising my kids. After a year of answering to CPS and the Judge I was able to keep my kids but there were dozens of stipulations that I HAD to abide by or I was on the streets and my parents were taking my kids. Touch love is sometimes all you have as your ally. Think about those babies and especially yourself. She is an adult and will figure it out. You have children to protect. Good luck to you! And welcome!