I think you're lovable V...smile and you DO talk a lot ....smile... Re listening I think that's just what you have to do stop talking and don't wait to just respond but take some time to both listen and think about what someone has said..

You are so bright and very deep with much of what you say here

If you want to work on a personality disorder sweetie you need therapy for that and therapy often isn't easy... It's facing things about ourselves that are hard... I've been there... A lot of us here have
I think it could make your life a whole lot easier if and when you make a commitment to it... It helps change the things that continue to bring you down and change behaviour that might be hurting your life.. Big hug for you sweets...xo

I'm not sure how to respond since I have no training that would enable me to answer your questions. That being said, I think that the best way to deal with a disability is to minimize it to others. As long as you avoid involving yourself in politics you should find it easy to be a better person and stay true to yourself. What works for me in cases that you've presented is to make lists of what you want to accomplish (and it sounds like you know this). Lists are very focusing.