do meant to rain on your parade; as a matter of fact I should have gone to one!

I'm also not real big into holidays , however I do enjoy or try to make the best of it , like sales at the grocery store , in general holiday sales , binge eating junk food and saying or justify well it's a holiday and holiday calories don't count , I think I will just lay around and enjoy the day , watch movies on TV and enjoy it for what it is ,

We are having our 4th of July on the 6th;Sunday. My son is coming over and we will barbque some thing.

It's not a holiday over here but for some odd reason I'm really feeling the Christmas spirit right now. Find a way to celebrate that distracts from the absence of your family. Get some cake, glitter, have some fun with red and blue paint...

With me at the "now" feels sensational and I have my closest friend over for a couple of scotches and beers and a game of pool! All under the "light the fuse" level though, lol.

Its good to say how you feel Amuseme, and its not as much fun when you're outcomes don't add up to what you might expect out of things, like families involvement and contact worth a sh_t, as you put it, hehe.

Fortunately you have us :-)

Many huggy returns!

I can take family in small doses. Just not for too long. I'm starting to think I need to just live alone.

I love Holidays and getting together with family.

Unfortunately , this year, everyone is out of town.

I'm in California, so because of the severe drought, all fireworks have been cancelled

:(

The day (or week) after a holiday, I feel so tired like I'm hung over, achy, feverish and I don't even drink! Maybe I should!

I feel fortunate to have my family and friends to spend the holidays with.

I'm glad you have ur boyfriend in ur life :-)

I normally can conquer negative perspectives, but sometimes I do succumb to self- pity which I think is warrented once in a while. After all, it is sad to have physical and emotional limits when you're an ambitious person who must compromise your potential. I could have been such a larger presence in the world. I'm very intelligent and empathic and a powerful force. The real challenge is when I start to compare myself with others in my field and realize that I am doing my part in a way that works best for me. Thank you for the support :)

I am glad that you have a great boyfriend! That's awesome!

I often have mixed feelings about holidays myself. Many times, a trigger might have happened from a long tima ago, or my friends are out of town or we cannot get together or whatever......

My husband and I concentrated on my son's birthday-his 10th. When I started on here, my boy was 7? I think. Anyway, we got caught up in the getting the presents and setting things up for a Skype from his half sister and time flew by.

The birthday party was with ONE friend of my boy's, so he's a loner like his parents are, and it was very significant and special and private and close.

We DID NOT celebrate the Fourth.....it just passed. My boy has ADHD, so he was rather strung out after playing his new video games and playing iwth his tablet and reading his books he got and so we didn't go to our church which has patriotic songs and such on 4th of July weekend. It is a small church with many people in it from WWII, and I like going during 4th of July weekend to remember and honor my parents. My husband works on Sundays.

So, some 4th's have been empty--some 4th's have been busy--some 4th's have been highly depressing and this 4th, since the 7th happene on a Monday, was just the perfect time for my boy's birthday and so we concentrated on that and it got us through--seeeing his happiness and his growth and just enjoying close friends.

So if it were me, I'd take that boyfriend and make the best of any holiday and make it private and special and let the rest of the world go by because in the end it is the ones we love who make the holidays special.

Hugs,
Rappciteeinblue

PS: In the earlier years on here, I was very insecure, so I was under varying names.